http://www.handinhandparenting.org/ Recent articles for parents from Hand in Hand Parenting. CGFeedMaker 1.0.14 on CMS Made Simple jonmires@hotmail.com (Admin User) http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/205/64/Emotional-Projects-Rebuilding-Closeness-Step-by-Step Wed, 09 May 2012 15:29:13 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/205/64/Emotional-Projects-Rebuilding-Closeness-Step-by-Step http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/203/64/Thank-You-for-Stopping-the-Hitting Mon, 02 Apr 2012 11:41:47 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/203/64/Thank-You-for-Stopping-the-Hitting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/202/64/10-Tips-For-Raising-Happy-Parents It’s no secret that parenting well is a complex art form and each of us brings our own unique style and beliefs into the day to day raising of the children in our lives. But here are ten ways of... Fri, 24 Feb 2012 20:25:40 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/202/64/10-Tips-For-Raising-Happy-Parents http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/204/64/Mommy-Do-Kids-Die-Helping-Children-with-Death Wed, 15 Feb 2012 11:35:20 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/204/64/Mommy-Do-Kids-Die-Helping-Children-with-Death http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/201/64/What-to-Say-During-Staylistening Tue, 14 Feb 2012 02:00:32 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/201/64/What-to-Say-During-Staylistening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/200/64/What-We-Hope-for-All-Parents Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:48:37 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/200/64/What-We-Hope-for-All-Parents http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/171/64/Parent-Education---Connect-with-your-Children This is First of the three articles on Parent Education.  This article is about Connecting with your children. Connection is essential to raise healthy, capable, successful children. But don't take my word for it. There is lots of fascinating science... Thu, 24 Nov 2011 14:56:10 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/171/64/Parent-Education---Connect-with-your-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/199/64/3-Tools-To-Stop-The-Hitting Odd as it may seem, children who hit are children who are afraid. The fears that cause trouble for a child who hits usually have their roots in some frightening experience earlier in her life, even though she may not... Thu, 03 Nov 2011 04:00:00 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/199/64/3-Tools-To-Stop-The-Hitting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/198/64/Parental-Fears-Finding-our-Way-in-the-Dark Tue, 04 Oct 2011 15:31:11 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/198/64/Parental-Fears-Finding-our-Way-in-the-Dark http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/197/64/When-Your-Child-Screams-I-Hate-You All of us, not just our children, have episodes of upset, during which our logical, reasonable and cooperative powers are totally sidelined by encompassing and confusing clouds of feelings. The feelings can be of any kind—infatuation, anger, jealousy, embarrassment, loneliness,... Tue, 06 Sep 2011 01:00:30 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/197/64/When-Your-Child-Screams-I-Hate-You http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/196/64/Scrapes-Cuts-and-Dustups-Helping-Your-Child-Heal Mon, 01 Aug 2011 14:11:48 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/196/64/Scrapes-Cuts-and-Dustups-Helping-Your-Child-Heal http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/195/64/When-Things-Don-t-Go-Perfectly Wed, 06 Jul 2011 13:48:31 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/195/64/When-Things-Don-t-Go-Perfectly http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/194/64/When-They-re-Hell-Bent-on-Misbehaving Fri, 17 Jun 2011 13:03:23 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/194/64/When-They-re-Hell-Bent-on-Misbehaving http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/193/64/Leading-A-Study-Group Thu, 16 Jun 2011 16:23:45 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/193/64/Leading-A-Study-Group http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/192/64/When-Children-Lie What will help a child who lies? A good first step for a parent is to think about the bigger picture. Yes, honey has been spilled all over the floor, and the child is standing there with sticky hands, saying... Wed, 25 May 2011 17:52:18 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/192/64/When-Children-Lie http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/191/64/Can-I-Have-a-Hug-Helping-Children-with-Hello-and-Goodbye My personal policy is that no child of mine (and no grandchild) has to give any particular kind of affection to relatives, guests, friends, or even to me as mom or grandma. I recommend this policy. That way you and... Tue, 03 May 2011 15:21:27 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/191/64/Can-I-Have-a-Hug-Helping-Children-with-Hello-and-Goodbye http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/190/64/ Thu, 21 Apr 2011 13:24:40 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/190/64/ http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/188/64/How-To-Deal-With-Bedwetting “My five-year-old can’t seem to stay dry at night. We’ve tried and tried, and nothing I do seems to work. She feels bad when she wets the bed, I try not to bother her about it, but I am very... Tue, 15 Mar 2011 19:30:17 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/188/64/How-To-Deal-With-Bedwetting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/187/64/Is-Your-Child-a-Chewer Tue, 15 Mar 2011 18:32:23 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/187/64/Is-Your-Child-a-Chewer http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/186/64/Talking-to-Your-Child-About-Natural-Disasters Fri, 11 Mar 2011 18:23:35 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/186/64/Talking-to-Your-Child-About-Natural-Disasters http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/185/64/Stutter-Stoppers I've got a 3-year-old son who stutters moderately severely. The speech therapist has told me it's related to anxiety.  Do you have ideas for helping my son? How to use Playlistening and Special Time to help your child overcome... Tue, 08 Mar 2011 16:20:51 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/185/64/Stutter-Stoppers http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/184/64/Bad-Words-from-Good-Kids When the name-calling happened, he was stunned, and probably frightened. He couldn’t tell anyone how he felt. Now, he has you. Now is the time to pour out the upset and confusion and anger he absorbed. He may aim his... Fri, 03 Dec 2010 17:48:39 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/184/64/Bad-Words-from-Good-Kids http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/183/64/Planes-Trains-and-Small-Children Mon, 15 Nov 2010 19:00:09 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/183/64/Planes-Trains-and-Small-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/182/64/What-s-the-Problem-with-Spanking In many Western cultures, there’s a longstanding history of permission to spank children. Many of our parents spanked. And most of us hold the perspective that our parents were doing their very best to love us. So whether to spank... Tue, 12 Oct 2010 15:31:13 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/182/64/What-s-the-Problem-with-Spanking http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/181/64/Teasing-How-to-Intervene-without-Blame-or-Shame When children feel connected and secure, and are being treated with respect and warmth, they feel safe, feel seen, and can think, learn and act generously toward other children. The child who teased yours was clearly not feeling safe or... Fri, 08 Oct 2010 23:15:58 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/181/64/Teasing-How-to-Intervene-without-Blame-or-Shame http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/180/64/Child-Trauma-How-To-Overcome-It Children have a natural emotional processing system they try to use after a frightening incident. We sometimes get in their way, but they do their best to offload the emotion of fear. You’ll see your child using this elegant process... Sun, 12 Sep 2010 13:39:02 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/180/64/Child-Trauma-How-To-Overcome-It http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/179/64/When-To-Wean-The-Baby There comes a time when a nursing mom will benefit from either fewer nursings, night weaning, or the end of nursing. Weaning is a crossroads that's loaded wtih feelings all around. Slow weaning is an approach that will help you... Mon, 05 Jul 2010 16:57:36 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/179/64/When-To-Wean-The-Baby http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/178/64/The-Cries-that-Bind Children cry only when they are too upset to think. Feelings of upset can overpower a child and drive him to do things that don’t make sense. As you listen, you drain the power these feelings have over your child.... Mon, 05 Jul 2010 16:36:07 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/178/64/The-Cries-that-Bind http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/177/64/Attending-to-Attention-Issues The set of behaviors that has come to define "ADD" and "ADHD" is the same set of behaviors that a child must adopt if he has been deeply frightened at some time in his life. To keep those fears from... Tue, 08 Jun 2010 15:16:31 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/177/64/Attending-to-Attention-Issues http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/176/64/The-Day-I-First-Partnered-with-My-Child Backed into a corner no parent wants to be in, I figured I would have to overpower him, pin one of his arms under each of my knees, force his eyelids apart, and bomb him with those drops. I love... Tue, 08 Jun 2010 13:38:46 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/176/64/The-Day-I-First-Partnered-with-My-Child http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/175/64/Parent-Education---Staylistening This is Thrid of the three articles on Parent Education.  This article is about observing  and listening to your children.This is why Hand in Hand promotes "time-in" rather than "time-out"; putting the focus on connecting with your child when he... Tue, 04 May 2010 22:54:42 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/175/64/Parent-Education---Staylistening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/174/64/Preparing-Your-Child-for-Surgery “It looks like my 21-month-old son would benefit from a surgical procedure. How damaging is this likely to be for him? If we decide to go ahead with this, how can I prepare him for the procedure so it causes... Tue, 04 May 2010 13:16:11 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/174/64/Preparing-Your-Child-for-Surgery http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/173/64/Parent-Education---Dealing-with-Emotions This is Second of the three articles on Parent Education. This article is about helping in child's emotional development. As parents, it’s our job to help our children understand that emotional life is rich, is powerful, and while we need... Wed, 07 Apr 2010 17:28:59 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/173/64/Parent-Education---Dealing-with-Emotions http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/172/64/Being-a-Parent Becoming parents challenges us right down to our bones. Our children evoke deep tenderness and delight and bring out an energy and protectiveness in us that we didn’t know we had. But the realities of sleep deprivation and the anxiety... Wed, 07 Apr 2010 15:20:43 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/172/64/Being-a-Parent http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/170/64/Helping-Super-Competitive-Children-Relax Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:34:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/170/64/Helping-Super-Competitive-Children-Relax http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/169/64/Empowering-Your-Child Most of our children will, at some sad moment in their lives, be excluded by other children who have a game going that they don’t want to expand, or who are having such a hard day themselves that they are... Tue, 23 Feb 2010 15:43:19 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/169/64/Empowering-Your-Child http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/164/64/New-Habits-of-Mind-for-2012-that-Will-Make-Parenting-More-Connected I’ve noticed over the years that many of us parents have internal habits, habits of mind, that sap our energy and make life harder. I think that the lack of respect for the work of parenting in our society engraves... Fri, 15 Jan 2010 15:56:01 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/164/64/New-Habits-of-Mind-for-2012-that-Will-Make-Parenting-More-Connected http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/165/64/Nightmares-and-Night-Terrors All of us experienced nightmares at some point in our childhood. Usually, nightmares are an occasional thing. Your son probably is experiencing what they call “night terrors,” which go on night after night for a period of time, and usually... Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:00:29 -0600 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/165/64/Nightmares-and-Night-Terrors http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/166/64/Offering-Reassurance When a child bursts into tears or a tantrum, his perspective on the world has momentarily shattered. His mind can no longer take in information—he can’t make sense of anything. Hurt has flashed, big and hot, and his life feels... Fri, 04 Sep 2009 16:03:22 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/166/64/Offering-Reassurance http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/163/64/NAEYC-Presentation-Helping-Families-with-Stress Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:52:40 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/163/64/NAEYC-Presentation-Helping-Families-with-Stress http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/162/64/Potty-Training-Experience--Staylistening Fri, 28 Aug 2009 15:32:31 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/162/64/Potty-Training-Experience--Staylistening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/167/64/Play-Empathy-and-TV Q. It seems to me that children aren't playing with each other the way they used to. Sometimes, it looks to me like they hardly play with each other at all--they act out imaginary scripts, and they're each in their... Tue, 04 Aug 2009 16:04:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/167/64/Play-Empathy-and-TV http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/161/64/Potty-Training-experience---Playlistening Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:20:18 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/161/64/Potty-Training-experience---Playlistening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/39/64/Do-Children-Manipulate-Their-Parents “Silly question!” you might exclaim. “Of course children manipulate their parents! My children do it all the time, and it drives me crazy!” We tend to call it manipulation when a child looks at us, and then proceeds to do... Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:42:07 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/39/64/Do-Children-Manipulate-Their-Parents http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/47/64/Helping-Children-with-Separation-and-Divorce Many families face the challenge of divorce or separation. Whatever the causes of the separation, and whatever the circumstances, it’s hard on everyone involved. Parents want the best for their children. They want stable, loving relationships in their lives. And... Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:50:36 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/47/64/Helping-Children-with-Separation-and-Divorce http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/51/64/How-Can-I-Help-my-Angry-Pre-Teen Q. I’m afraid my middle-school-aged daughter is going to turn into an “angry teenager.” Things seem to be going well for her right now but she can be unhappy, aggressive and moody, and she sometimes gets physical. She had a... Thu, 23 Jul 2009 14:55:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/51/64/How-Can-I-Help-my-Angry-Pre-Teen http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/63/64/Why-Not-Tickle-My-Child Tickling is one of those customary kinds of play that is handed down from generation to generation through our families. It is rarely questioned, but deserves to be thought about more carefully, as it's a form of play that can,... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:12:50 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/63/64/Why-Not-Tickle-My-Child http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/62/64/What-s-the-Cure-for-Whining If we wanted to make a list of the things children do that irritate their parents, we'd find whining near the top! It's a behavior that every child tries sooner or later. Some children fall into whining and can’t seem... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:11:25 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/62/64/What-s-the-Cure-for-Whining http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/61/64/There-is-No-Throwaway-Behavior One way of framing our Parenting by Connection approach is to say confidently that all of children’s behavior has value. Everything a child does either helps him learn and grow, helps him recover from hurt, or serves as a Help... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:10:39 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/61/64/There-is-No-Throwaway-Behavior http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/60/64/The-Vigorous-Snuggle When children are caught up in a behavior that isn’t working for them or for you, we parents usually become serious and instructive. “Now, son, you know that’s not a nice thing to say, and I already asked you to... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:09:15 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/60/64/The-Vigorous-Snuggle http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/59/64/Setting-Limits-with-Young-Children When children are under stress they lose their patience, their love of fun, their easygoing ability to make each day a good one. At these times, they tend to do things that don't make sense. They'll begin to squabble, to... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:07:10 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/59/64/Setting-Limits-with-Young-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/58/64/Power-Struggles-Dissolve-with-Laughter Sooner or later in our lives as parents, we find ourselves locked in a power struggle with our child. It can happen over being fed with a spoon when a baby is just a year old. It can happen over... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:06:10 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/58/64/Power-Struggles-Dissolve-with-Laughter http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/57/64/Potty-Talk-and-Body-Glee Many little boys I have known, and many girls too, go through a long phase during which they love to use body words and potty words to shock people, and to laugh and laugh. This is normal. It happens all... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:04:02 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/57/64/Potty-Talk-and-Body-Glee http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/56/64/Playlistening Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:03:18 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/56/64/Playlistening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/55/64/Partnering-with-Your-Child We at Hand in Hand are working to introduce good parents everywhere to one very simple new idea that changes the work of parenting. The heart of this idea is that children's feelings play a deeply useful role in their... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:02:12 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/55/64/Partnering-with-Your-Child http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/54/64/No-More-Thumb-No-More-Pacifier We adults have lots of ways to distract ourselves from feeling a little off base. We jiggle our feet, chew on a pencil, snack and snack again, read the paper, or sneak in a bit of computer solitaire. Some of... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:00:33 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/54/64/No-More-Thumb-No-More-Pacifier http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/52/64/What-To-Do-About-Bullying Q. My daughter insists she wants to play with the two girls who live next door but she comes home every time highly emotional and upset. I watch them without her around and the older one is extremely mean to... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:57:05 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/52/64/What-To-Do-About-Bullying http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/50/64/Holiday-Meltdown-How-to-Avoid-it Your child will have big feelings when a special holiday or birthday comes up. It's one of the phenomena you can set your clock by. We parents wish the universe were governed by forces a little easier on us than... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:54:49 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/50/64/Holiday-Meltdown-How-to-Avoid-it http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/49/64/Helping-Young-Children-Sleep Most children struggle at some time or another with sleeping through the night. Of course, when infants are quite young, they need to wake several times in the night, eat, and be reassured that their parents are close and all... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:52:48 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/49/64/Helping-Young-Children-Sleep http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/48/64/Helping-Children-with-Shyness Each child comes into the world with a different set of potential characteristics. As parents, our challenge is to find ways to work with, and celebrate, the people our children are. Some children are slow to warm to others. If... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:51:50 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/48/64/Helping-Children-with-Shyness http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/46/64/Helping-Children-Play-Well-Together When you and your child join or set up a play group, or get together with other families, it helps to have the parents agree on policies for handling the inevitable issues: Separation Aggressive behavior Withdrawn... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:49:36 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/46/64/Helping-Children-Play-Well-Together http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/45/64/Helping-Children-Conquer-Their-Fears Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:49:02 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/45/64/Helping-Children-Conquer-Their-Fears http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/44/64/Separation-Anxiety-Recovery Children thrive on connection with their parents. Their need for a sense of connection is strong and constant through childhood. It is this sense of safety and connection that allows children to learn at a great rate, to experiment and... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:47:52 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/44/64/Separation-Anxiety-Recovery http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/43/64/Handling-Children-s-Feelings-in-Public-Places We live in a society that has a demanding and judgmental attitude toward parents and young children. Often, the attitude toward children in public is that they should be seen and not heard, that the parent should be in control... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:46:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/43/64/Handling-Children-s-Feelings-in-Public-Places http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/42/64/Help-for-Picky-Eaters When you have a picky eater, the problem isn't so much with food, it's with your child's feelings about food. Children whose palate is broad generally have the feeling that food is interesting. They experience enjoyment and ease when they... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:45:52 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/42/64/Help-for-Picky-Eaters http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/41/64/Embracing-Transitions It’s healthy and often necessary for parents to say, “OK, now I need to fix dinner, so I need to stop playing with you now.” We have many tasks to juggle, and we often have to stop playing with our... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:44:28 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/41/64/Embracing-Transitions http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/40/64/Ease-the-Transition-of-Moving-to-a-New-Home Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:43:02 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/40/64/Ease-the-Transition-of-Moving-to-a-New-Home http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/38/64/Children-Chores-and-Drudgery By the time children are about seven years old, most parents have begun to think, “It’s about time she did a little work around here!” and the battles begin. “When are you going to feed the dog?” “That garbage needs... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:40:57 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/38/64/Children-Chores-and-Drudgery http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/37/64/Backbone-and-Bounce-Building-Resilience What can parents do to help their children bounce back under adversity, with a basic sense of confidence in themselves in spite of difficult circumstances? And when a parent has a child who collapses when things are difficult, what can... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:40:10 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/37/64/Backbone-and-Bounce-Building-Resilience http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/36/64/Answering-Children-s-Core-Questions Once they can speak, young children ask lots of questions. “What is on the moon?” “Why do we have to sleep?” “Do worms taste bad?” And a thousand other inquiries help children fill in their picture of how the world... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:39:24 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/36/64/Answering-Children-s-Core-Questions http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/35/64/Ahhh-Summer Ahhh, Summer! What do you remember of the lazy days of summer when you were a child? What were the best times? What did you look forward to all year long? What new experiences did you have that taught you... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:37:59 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/35/64/Ahhh-Summer http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/34/64/I-Want-It-Now-Children-s-Wants-and-Needs A big part of our experience as parents has to do with developing ways to address the deeply felt wants and needs of our children. We deal with wants and needs from our babies' earliest moments through their entry into... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:36:33 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/34/64/I-Want-It-Now-Children-s-Wants-and-Needs http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/168/64/Picky-Eater-Getting-Beyond-Yuck "I've been struggling with my child's picky eating for a long time now. It seems that the list of things he wants and really will eat is narrowing down over time. I don't want him to grow up with the... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:11:18 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/168/64/Picky-Eater-Getting-Beyond-Yuck http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/33/64/Making-a-Difference-in-the-Lives-of-Parents-and-Children There is an important role you can play in the lives of parents and children from outside the family. There isn't an accepted name for this role: you aren't "grandfather" or "aunt" or "godparent" or "cousin." We use the word... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:05:05 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/33/64/Making-a-Difference-in-the-Lives-of-Parents-and-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/32/64/Helping-Children-Exposed-to-Shocking-Events (written in 2001) We all are struggling to deal thoughtfully with the War on Terrorism, and the wars that have sprung up in its wake. A cascade of feelings has been triggered in each of us. We are now... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:03:37 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/32/64/Helping-Children-Exposed-to-Shocking-Events http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/31/64/Parenting-Amid-Threats-of-War (written in February 2002)   We are in the midst of a challenging time, with the possibility of a new war looming. It's a time to be listening and learning. This article will focus on the challenges of... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:02:35 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/31/64/Parenting-Amid-Threats-of-War http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/29/64/Inoculating-Our-Children-Against-Racism Children are not, by nature, racist. Nor are they born with damaging assumptions about people in any definable group. We all begin with a winning trust in others, an expectation that people will be good to each other, and... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:56:41 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/29/64/Inoculating-Our-Children-Against-Racism http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/27/64/The-Time-Crunch-Mending-Our-Lives It's probably safe to say that nearly every parent in the United States is time-poor. We need time to connect well with each child, time to tend relationships with our partners and our wider families, time to tend our households,... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:55:00 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/27/64/The-Time-Crunch-Mending-Our-Lives http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/26/64/We-re-Doing-Our-Best I'm struck again and again by how hard each parent I know tries to do well by his child. We make great efforts, moment by moment and day by day. Once the efforts begin, we never stop caring. We never... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:54:02 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/26/64/We-re-Doing-Our-Best http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/25/64/The-Current-Situation-for-Parents-and-the-Work-of-Parenting The situation for parents is growing more difficult in most countries of the world today, in spite of technological and material advances in the Western world. Capitalism and the ethic that supports it are encroaching on all the cultures of... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:53:23 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/25/64/The-Current-Situation-for-Parents-and-the-Work-of-Parenting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/24/64/Struggles-are-OK Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:52:03 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/24/64/Struggles-are-OK http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/23/64/Sick-Mommy-but-Listening My daughter hates it when I'm sick. I try to maintain her routine as much as possible when I have a cold or a mild bug but this flu season really knocked me over. When I had a rough night... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:50:22 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/23/64/Sick-Mommy-but-Listening http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/22/64/Partnering-Well-in-Parenting It is with hope and joy that we have welcomed our children into our lives as parents. We've looked forward to loving them, and to loving each other in the project of nurturing them. It's often the biggest commitment we... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:49:32 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/22/64/Partnering-Well-in-Parenting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/21/64/Financing-Parenting Ask parents and many of them will tell you they would like to be able to take some time out from their jobs so they can devote more attention and energy to their kids. A recent study by Public Agenda,... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:46:10 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/21/64/Financing-Parenting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/20/64/Fathers-Are-Primary-Parents Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:45:10 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/20/64/Fathers-Are-Primary-Parents http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/19/64/Being-In-Control-The-Possible-and-Impossible-in-Parenting Parents are expected to stay "in control" of their lives, their children, and themselves. Some major parts of this expectation are impossible to fulfill! But because there is no way to learn parenting skills and truths ahead of time, we... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:43:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/19/64/Being-In-Control-The-Possible-and-Impossible-in-Parenting http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/18/64/Supporting-our-Adolescent-Children Adolescent life in our society is far from easy. We wonder why our children act so distant, seem so moody, and have trouble concentrating on the tasks before them. We wonder why they now stay at such a distance from... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:42:07 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/18/64/Supporting-our-Adolescent-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/17/64/How-Special-Time-Works-with-Teens Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:40:55 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/17/64/How-Special-Time-Works-with-Teens http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/16/64/Listening-to-Nursing-Children When a baby is first born, we have the delightful, delicate task of getting to know her. We learn how she sleeps, how she eats, and see how she gazes into our eyes with trust and interest. She needs nourishment,... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:39:31 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/16/64/Listening-to-Nursing-Children http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/15/64/New-Parent-Podcasts Parents love their children.  Parents try hard.  They do their best every single day. Hand in Hand provides support and helpful information for new Moms and Dads on everything from Responding Well to Crying to Helping Baby Sleep to Handling... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:34:38 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/15/64/New-Parent-Podcasts http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/14/64/What-to-do-When-Your-Toddler-Bites Many toddlers go through a “biting stage.” They bite their Mommies and Daddies, or they bite other children. The parents of children who are bitten become fierce defenders of their children. Their "I've got to protect my child" response can... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:32:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/14/64/What-to-do-When-Your-Toddler-Bites http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/13/64/Biting-Pushing-Pulling-Hair-Helping-Children-with-Aggression Has your child ever lashed out and hurt someone? Has another aggressive child ever bothered him? If your answer is yes, join the crowd! Almost all of us struggle with understanding and helping our children when they hurt others, and... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:30:56 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/13/64/Biting-Pushing-Pulling-Hair-Helping-Children-with-Aggression http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/12/64/Start-School-Days-with-Special-Time On busy school day mornings, we try to send our children off with love. We sandwich “I love you. Have a good day! between “Where's my homework?” and “Can you pick me up after soccer practice?” We've got a suggestion... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:29:15 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/12/64/Start-School-Days-with-Special-Time http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/11/64/Getting-Through-School-Struggles Children love to learn. Learning is as natural as breathing to them—they absorb every single thing that happens. They learn through play, they learn from the behavior of the children and adults around them, they learn from their own experiments.... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:28:13 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/11/64/Getting-Through-School-Struggles http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/10/64/When-Sharing-Doesn-t-Come-Easily In “Helping Children to Share,” we looked at the "I'll be with you while you wait" policy that helps children when they find themselves in competition for toys or attention. Now, we'll turn to the subject of how you can... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:26:37 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/10/64/When-Sharing-Doesn-t-Come-Easily http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/9/64/Supporting-Sibling-Friendships Children are naturally deeply interested in other children, and are drawn to each other. They want to love and be loved by each other. Children have giant-sized needs for warm, relaxed attention from adults. They legitimately need our availability,... Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:23:18 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/9/64/Supporting-Sibling-Friendships http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/6/64/It-s-Mine-All-About-Sharing Tue, 14 Jul 2009 22:28:54 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/6/64/It-s-Mine-All-About-Sharing http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/4/64/Sibling-Rivalry-Some-Solutions Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:54:06 -0500 http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/4/64/Sibling-Rivalry-Some-Solutions