Month: November 2016

Five Ways Staylistening Is Different From “Cry It Out”

Often, our children find reason to be beside themselves with upset. These are rough times for them, and trying times for us as parents, too. We are taught to hush, shush, distract, rock, jiggle, joke, or, when we hit that low point on the patience meter, to scold or punish. But there’s a new and elegant

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Parenting: What To Do After You Mess Up

The other night I got really annoyed at my son. His birthday isn’t for another two months, and yet every day he’s telling me about this music speaker he wants. Grandma will be visiting soon, and because we live in a place where electronics are very expensive, he knows that I have the opportunity to

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当孩子们让你忍无可忍时该怎么做

我知道当我的大儿子对他还在蹒跚学步的小弟弟变得有攻击性时,是因为他感觉到受冷落,希望从我这里得到更多的关注。我知道他不能控制自己,可是我无法以爱的方式回应他的需求,因为我真的生他的气,感觉非常伤心和失望!我试图控制自己不对他大声喊叫,但是很困难!当事态发展触动了我的情绪,怎样做才能让我从忍无可忍地要爆发的状态一下子转而成为一个充满爱意的可亲的妈妈呢?秘诀是什么

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Five Playful Ways to Solve Thanksgiving Struggles

  Ahhh Thanksgiving. That time of year when social media is filled with picture perfect seasonal crafts and articles talking about how to give thanks with your little ones. Recipes display the “best-tasting turkey” and pictures show everyone at the family dinner table with angelic faces aglow. What’s wrong with this picture? Did we hear…a

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How Playful Potty Talk Helped Our Toilet Learning

By Claire Rosina My 2-year-old son started toilet learning this past month. He had showed interest in using the toilet, so I supported his choice and I started by asking if he wanted to wear a diaper or undies, letting him be in charge. Some days he’s great with getting to the toilet in time,

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When We Mess Up as Parents Replay

We hope you enjoy this recording with Patty Wipfler, Founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, and Tosha Schore, M.A., Your Partner in Parenting Boys, coauthors of , “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.” If you’ve ever yelled at your child, put your child down, or done anything at all you swore

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Reduce Parenting Stress: Why do We Put Off Listening Time

  “I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival. – Audre Lorde   When parents learn about Hand in Hand’s five Listening Tools they are soon amazed by the transformations. Parents start spending Special Time with their children and they learn how to play. They

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Vaccination Fears? Play Can Help

Our family recently traveled and we had decided to get some vaccinations for our 3 ½ year-old daughter. We needed three shots over three visits. My daughter had never had shots before, but the first time went beautifully, probably because she had no preconception about what to expect. The second time she was terrified. She screamed

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How To Get Your Kids To Play Better

Why do your children play well for hours some days and others can’t go five minutes without calling on you? Your own tension may play a big factor. Children have a way of picking up on stress, whether or not you bring it to them. If you are worried, upset or anxious, they might be

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How One Mom Kept Her Limit (and Her Calm) After a Playdate

By Andrea McCracken As the school year has got started my daughter has gotten more and more social, and wants to play with her friends often after school. One day at a friend’s house they had played, had ice cream and done more activities than would typically happen at our house. She was enjoying her

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A Seven Step Guide to Building Connection and Safety at Home

If your child has become frightened by the tones, words, or images seen in the media lately, at home, or from peers, he or she will find ways to bring up those fears that may be indirect. You might notice a sadness or weight about your child. Or his behavior may be off-track. He might

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A New Approach to Separation Anxiety in Daycare and School

In most daycare and preschools, parents are encouraged to make drop off brief. A quick kiss or hug and then out the door. But not in Shelley Macy‘s classes.  She makes efforts to welcome each parent warmly and tries not to rush them. “Warmth is a big deal to a child. They feel connected with

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Bedtime Fears: Two Games to Help

    Separating at bedtime has been a struggle for our 2-year-old for quite some time and I have done a lot of Staylistening with him on this emotional project of his. But lately, he hasn’t been having any Staylistening at all and, depending on who puts him to bed and how tired he is,

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How Your Attention Helps Children Play Together

My twin boys and I had gone away for a couple of days together with a friend and her son, plus two close relatives. I’m not sure where the difficulties came from, but at the start of the trip our children couldn’t play together more than two minutes without it becoming tense. It seemed there was always some

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How Professionals Are Using the Hand in Hand Tools Replay

How can Hand in Hand enhance your clinical, therapeutic, or medical practice and your effectiveness as a licensed professional working with parents and/or children? In this teleseminar, Maya Coleman, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist, Robin Setchko, LMFT, Pam Oatis, MD, pediatrician, and Beth Ohanneson, M.S. MFT, gave many examples of how they use the Hand in Hand

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