It’s not helpful for children, or for us, to be taught that others are bad. It disempowers us. If others are “bad,” then they have a condition we can’t help them with. We have to defend ourselves against a force that we can’t see or influence. This view is far more empowering: it is hurt people who hurt people. Continue reading
Listen to this free presentation to learn the causes of your child’s aggressive impulses and understand what is happening for them when the impulse to hurt others takes over. Join Certified Parenting by Connection instructors Kathy Gordon and Kirsten Volk … Continue reading
These are simple practical things that will help when your toddler hits. Continue reading
Children want your help to stop hitting, biting, kicking or hurting others. Children don’t want to hit. Here’s what you can do to end this problem behavior. Continue reading
Even when we parents have made a conscious decision not to be harsh with our children, reprimands roll all too easily out of our mouths. When their behavior triggers feelings for us, those feelings make us forget that our children are good. That they are built to get along with others, have fun, try new things, and laugh with their friends. We forget that on most days, they’ll also have moments when they can’t act in concert with the best in their nature, just like we do. Continue reading
When I child screams, “I hate you!” responding with your own anger will only inflame an already charged situation. Here are some idea of what would be a nurturing response, in addition to what not to do. Continue reading
Children don’t want to hit. Children don’t want to hurt. When they do, it’s because their minds have been overcome with upset. What helps is for their parents, or any nearby adult, to move in and stop them, not with words, which they can’t process while their minds are hot with feelings, but with a physical barrier to aggression.
Almost all children at one time or another lash out at others – whether it be hitting, biting, kicking, scratching or hurling blocks. It’s tempting to think that we need to teach them that such behavior is not acceptable.
Toddlers don’t decide to bite. They are generous beings at heart, and they don’t want to hurt anyone. A toddler bites because a big wave of tension has suddenly flooded his brain. He doesn’t plan this, and he doesn’t know how to stop it. Toddlers’ biting is like a sneeze or a cough—his body does it for internal reasons that aren’t under his control. Continue reading
Biting! Hitting! Pulling hair! Has your child ever lashed out and hurt someone? Has another aggressive child ever bothered him? If your answer is yes, join the crowd! Almost all of us struggle with understanding and helping our children when … Continue reading