My grandmother died when my daughter was two years old. My grandmother and I had been really close, so I was devastated. For a while it was hard to do the simplest of tasks, like getting out of bed, or … Continue reading
When our children hurt each other, we need help ourselves Seeing one sibling hurt another is one of the most trying times in our lives as parents. It makes us feel like we aren’t succeeding at the really important part … Continue reading
Every child has longings for more time and more closeness with their parents! These longings are a big part of why it’s hard to want to go to bed at night, hard to get dressed to go to daycare or … Continue reading
Let’s take a look at the power of perspective! Parenting is a real workout, right? You never have enough time, patience, or energy to juggle kids, work, household, adult relationships, and your own personal health and wellbeing. The children pose … Continue reading
Almost all of us can remember hurtful things our parents did. But they did their best. The human instinct to love is at its most powerful when we become parents. Your parents and mine wanted to love us with all they had. Just as we, too, were born to love our children with all we’ve got. When our parents couldn’t manage to get their love across, powerful forces may have stacked the deck against them.
We can improve our parenting lives by anticipating emotional emergencies, and experimenting with strategies that can help us to avoid the worst—to divert us before we yell, hit, grab, blame, or shame. Long range, we parents need to set up good emotional support for ourselves, so our well of patience doesn’t run dry so often. It’s a hard job. It’s smart to build support. But even with good support, all parents face moments when our own behavior gets out of hand.
When we became parents, most of us had no idea that we would need to master the art of handling stress. Nurturing children is a job that’s best done with ample and relaxed support—several committed people taking a variety of … Continue reading
Grandparents are Important! Grandparents are very important to families. Our value to our children and grandchildren is enormous. Your grandchildren love to spend time with you and your children are often grateful for the added attention, gifts, and resources you … Continue reading
We enter parenthood looking forward to sharing the journey fully with our partner. We hope to carve up the practicalities as well as talk and dream together about how to raise our children. We want to share what’s going well … Continue reading
Shelley Macy, Coordinator for Early Childhood Education at Northwest Indian College in Bellingham, WA, and I recently gave a presentation at the Annual Conference of the National Association for the Education of Young Children. We talked about Helping Families with … Continue reading