Things were prickly from the get-go that morning. My older daughter, then nine years old, sat on the couch, acting groggy and still waking up. Two feet away, her three-year-old sister was on the floor playing with a pile of … Continue reading
By Rachel Scholfield Like it or not, part of everyday life as a parent is Setting Limits with our child. We naturally want to keep our kids safe, help them build respectful relationships and learn to take care of themselves. … Continue reading
When I had my own kids, I was determined that they would never have to be frightened as they fell asleep at night. But how do we help children sleep well on their own? What does it really take to build sleep confidence?
Ce părinte nu și-a dorit să se poată clona într-o armată de experți în supraveghere, giugiuleală, îngrijirea copiilor, purtarea lor, ținut în brațe, schimbarea scutecelor și menaj? De câte ori nu spunem: “Sunt numai eu”? Vrem să ne iubim copiii, … Continue reading
Nos parents, pour la plupart d’entre eux, ne nous ont pas écoutés tandis que nous exprimions nos sentiments de façon passionnée. Ceci n’a jamais été modélisé pour eux. Nous, à notre tour, ne savons pas toujours quoi dire. Il se … Continue reading
Une enfant prend peur lorsque des circonstances qu’elle ne peut pas contrôler, ou des circonstances qu’elle ne comprend pas perturbent son fragile sentiment de sécurité. Le processus du développement, la naissance, et la petite enfance présentent de nombreux moments lors … Continue reading
What I remember is that she felt defeated in the face of her child’s aggression. All she’d done was say “no” to the playdate, and he’d hit her. In the park. In front of everyone. Just like that. With no … Continue reading
A child’s meltdown is often the quickest way to heal the upset. Distracting with food, or promises of getting another toy, allows the upset feeling to be prolonged. The child will then find another pretext later to trigger the rest of her tantrum.
Recently, I took my younger daughter to her preschool after a vacation break of 10 days. This transition back to our usual rhythm, and her emotional response to it, reminded me of the many times over the years that both … Continue reading
An emotional project is a set of persistent feelings or behaviors that come up for your child again and again. When the same feeling or behavior is triggered many times in somewhat similar situations (like always hating to go to school or daycare, or always becoming aggressive if other children crowd too close), it indicates that there’s a big hurt under the surface. To heal that hurt, you’ll need to listen many times to the same big feelings—“You don’t care about me!” or “It’s not fair! It’s never fair!” As your child cries or rages and you listen with care, the two of you together will drain that big hurt, and change your child’s overall outlook on life and on his relationship with you.