Early one morning, my seven-year-old daughter began to be aggressive with her younger brother. She insisted that he play with her—and on her terms. He did his best to tell her no, but he wasn’t getting through. The situation was escalating quickly. I decided to invite my daughter for five minutes of Special Time, as
Aggression is common in toddlers, but that doesn’t mean it’s inevitable. The Hand in Hand Parenting philosophy is based on the fact that all children are naturally, good, loving and co-operative. Sometimes hurt feelings overwhelm their limbic system – the emotional part of the brain, and when this happens, their pre-frontal cortex – the part
Q. We were at a school picnic when some of the children began teasing my child. They called him a “baby!” and basically treated him like he wasn’t worthy of their attention. It was horrifying and really upset me. What should a parent do? I’m sorry this happened to your child. It’s unfair, heartbreaking, and
It seems like my son has been advocating for himself since the minute he was born. If he wanted to feed, he wanted to feed now! As a toddler, if he wanted my attention he’d climb up on my lap and turn my face away from whoever I was talking to. If he did not
Imagine you had a teacher that listened, really listened, when you were upset at school. In daycare and pre-school settings, there are many cries for many reasons. Children missing parents. Children that need the bathroom and don’t know how to ask. Children that hate the chaos and din of a classroom. Children wondering why dad
Comme la plupart des parents, les disputes entre tes enfants font probablement partie des choses face auxquelles tu te sens bien souvent démuni.e ou qui ont le chic de te mettre hors de toi. Toutes formatrices certifiées que nous soyons, nous traversons les mêmes sentiments que tout parent. Dans ce récit, Chloé Saint Guilhem partage
Je me rappellerai toujours du changement de perspective qui s’est produit pour moi lors de ce Partenariat d’écoute. Nous abordions le thème de l’agressivité chez l’enfant lors d’un groupe de soutien parents et j’ai entendu d’après l’expérience d’autres parents, que les gestes agressifs chez les enfants, sont un appel à l’aide lorsqu’ils ont perdu leur
Une réponse de Patty Wipfler, traduite de l’anglais par Soizic Le Gouais et Chloé Saint Guilhem, formatrice certifiée Hand in Hand “Mes enfants me rendent folle quand ils utilisent le mot “S…” et quand ils traitent leurs parents et frères et sœurs de “stupides” lorsqu’ils sont en colère. Il me disent, “Tu es stupide” ou
A mama asked me recently what she should do when her child hits her? How do you make a child stop hitting? It’s a great question, because the key part to remember is that we are responsible for making the behaviour stop. Actually making it stop, as opposed to telling your three-year-old to stop hitting.
You wake up to a bright and shining sun, nothing but blue skies and birds singing. Your child calls out to you. You go into their room, look into their beautiful eyes feeling the joy of a new day and they complain. Loudly. “I don’t want to go to camp!!!” Your child pulls the covers
“Listen” authors Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore talk about how play works to dissolve your child’s anger and aggression, and how you can harness its power to reduce explosive episodes and get closer even as you set limits and boundaries.
Does it ever feel like your kids are just waiting for an excuse to start fighting? Family busyness, school stress, and changes in routine can all uproot a child’s sense of security. To get it back they need your warm attention, and you can be sure that they’ll start to signal that need in less
Make Sense of Your Son’s Aggressive Behavior with Listen Co-author and Certified Trainer Tosha Schore, with former Hand in Hand Parenting CEO Noelani Pearl Hunt.
Join Certified Instructor, Shelley Macy, MA, to discuss toddler hitting. She shares how the Hand in Hand Tools work with aggression. Looking for more inspiration? Join our online video class Helping Your Child with Aggression. Find your online village with the Hand in Hand Parent Club Community.You get Weekly Zoom Support Calls, 24/7 Coaching in
Certified Instructor, Shelley Macy, MA, and Hand in Hand Founder Patty Wipfler discuss why children bite and how to help. Connect with Shelley – https://bit….
You’ve had a hard day and you walk through the door, ready to see your child and find out what you missed. Except that when you walk into your home, they give you a sour look. You take a deep breath. Instead of the happy homecoming you dreamt of and crave, it looks like you
Dear Hand in Hand, Please help. My 4-year-old son has had a turbulent time at pre-school and has become very aggressive. I am seeing this as an issue around separation. We have increased Special Time, and I’m finding he has a huge, driving desire to play from the minute I pick him up at midday.
Copilașul tău se oprește brusc în mijlocul unui moment de joacă și te lovește? Ori pocnește alți copii, chiar pe proprii frați? Dacă-i așa, dă-mi voie să te asigur că nu ești un părinte ratat. Atunci când micuțul tău lovește nu este cuprins de o vrajă misterioasă. Copilul tău nu este rău. Totuși, atunci când
If you’ve ever seen your child thrash a toy to pieces, order you locked in jail or speed down a steep slope on a skateboard you are probably aware of these play types and the stress they can cause us, as parents!
A Guest Post by Laura Minnigerode Let’s start with this fact: An aggressive child is struggling with fear. What can that look like in a preschool classroom? There are almost as many answers as children, but here are some behaviors I have seen in my classroom: Biting Grabbing Hitting Pushing Scratching Pinching Verbal attention seeking
Un article traduit de l’anglais par Chloé Saint Guilhem, formatrice certifiée Hand in Hand Ton enfant a-t-il déjà envoyé un coup et blessé quelqu’un ? Un autre enfant agressif l’a-t-il déjà embêté ? Si ta réponse est oui, bienvenue au club ! Nous luttons presque tous pour comprendre et aider nos enfants quand ils en