Category: Other Topics

Ease the Transition of Moving to a New Home

Whether you are moving across the country or across town, this can be a stressful time for the whole family. Here are a few things to think about as you prepare for and make your way through this major transition. Air your own feelings so you can set an open and positive tone for the

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Answering Children’s Core Questions

Once they can speak, young children ask lots of questions. “What is on the moon?” “Why do we have to sleep?” “Do worms taste bad?” And a thousand other inquiries help children fill in their picture of how the world works. They learn from our answers, and from the fact that we don’t always know

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Parent Education: Connect with your Children

Connection is essential to raise healthy, capable, successful children. But don’t take my word for it. There is lots of fascinating science on the subject that makes surprisingly good reading. Dr. Daniel Siegel of the UCLA School of Medicine, said in a 2001 article, “the infant is born into the world genetically programmed to connect

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Inoculating Our Children Against Racism

Children are not, by nature, racist. Nor are they born with damaging assumptions about people in any definable group. We all begin with a winning trust in others, an expectation that people will be good to each other, and that life with others will be safe and fun. When a child feels close to his

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Making a Difference in the Lives of Parents and Children

There is an important role you can play in the lives of parents and children from outside the family. There isn’t an accepted name for this role: you aren’t “grandfather” or “aunt” or “godparent” or “cousin.” We use the word “ally” to describe this role. As an ally, you can lend absolutely vital backing to

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Let Summer Be Time For Children To Play, Laugh, Learn, Heal

Ahhh, Summer! What do you remember of the lazy days of summer when you were a child? What were the best times? What did you look forward to all year long? What new experiences did you have that taught you new things about the world, your talents, and yourself? For parents in two-job and three-job

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Supporting our Teenage Children

Adolescent life in our society is far from easy. We wonder why our children act so distant, seem so moody, and have trouble concentrating on the tasks before them. We wonder why they now stay at such a distance from us. We are often desperate for ways to build more trust and closeness into our

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Affection Play—A Powerful Antidote to the After-School Blahs

“Hi, Mallory. How was school today?” “OK.”“What did you do?”“Oh, I dunno.”“Who did you hang with?”“Same kids as yesterday.”“Oh.”Exit to room, to a screen, or to a bowl of cereal. We’re so glad to see our children after a long day. But our efforts to connect can fall flat. And when that happens, it’s hard

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What to Say During Staylistening

  Our parents, for the most part, didn’t listen to us while we were having passionate feelings. This had never been modeled for them. We, in turn, are sometimes at a loss as to what to say. We might manage not to interrupt our children’s intense feelings for awhile, but don’t have an easy time

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Fathers Are Primary Parents!

Children love their Daddies! Your children love to hear your voice, to see you come in the door, to sit next to you at the table, and to play with you as long as you can possibly play. One father I know told me that his fifteen-month-old climbed up on his and his wife’s bed

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Helping Children Conquer Their Fears

A child becomes afraid when circumstances beyond her control, or circumstances she doesn’t understand, rock her fragile sense of safety. The process of development, birth and early growth presents many moments when a child’s sense of safety is challenged. And although we consider ourselves an advanced society, many children still face deeply isolating and even

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Baby Crying: Why Listening to Nursing Children Builds Connection

en français When a baby is first born, we have the delightful, delicate task of getting to know her. We learn how she sleeps, how she eats, and see how she gazes into our eyes with trust and interest. She needs nourishment, closeness, familiarity and warmth, affection, and at times she needs respite from the

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Hosting A Hand in Hand “Listen” Parent Book Group

Welcome to Hand in Hand’s family of people dedicated to putting connection at the center of parenting. We’re glad you are interested in building a safe learning environment for parents, and in exploring Hand in Hand Parenting with other parents! We are confident that the guidelines set out below, together with your intelligence, good will, and common

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Partnering with Your Child To Solve Their Issues

We at Hand in Hand are working to introduce parents everywhere to one very simple new idea that changes the work of parenting. The heart of this idea is that children’s feelings play a deeply useful role in their lives. Children’s feelings arise when they haven’t yet been able to fully comprehend a challenging experience.

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How Special Time Works with Teens

Special Time is a simple idea that carries a lot of power. It’s a highly dependable way to build and to rebuild a close connection with a child. Special Time is when the parent spends a well-defined amount of time one-on-one with his child, with no interruptions, promising to do whatever the child wants to

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Build Connection With Your Child Through Play: Playlistening

Children function best when they feel connected to someone who cares about them. You can build connection with your child through play, laughter, roughhousing, cuddling, and warm, enthusiastic attention. Stresses of all kinds, loneliness, isolation, and criticism erase a child’s sense of connection, and make it harder for a child to love and learn. Play

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