Category: Setting Limits

A Policy for Reducing Tension When Children Won’t Share

A policy that helps children share The policy I like best about helping children share disputed items is that the child who has the item gets to keep it until they are done. Meanwhile, the parent “helps the other child wait” by making sure they are gently stopped if they try to grab the desired

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My Child Is Aggressive – What Should I Do?

  How Can I Handle My Child’s Aggressive Behaviors? None of the suggestions in this video with Patty Wipfler include controlling, forcing, or punishing your child. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Watch the video below and you’ll finally have that road map you always wanted for calmer parenting – even in intense moments. The

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What To Do When Your Child “Just Won’t Listen” Replay

If you’ve ever thought to yourself “life would be so much easier if I could get my child to just listen,” this is the call for you. In this free replay, Kathy Gordon addresses ways to fix the same frustrating behavior you see over and over again. She shares tools you can implement right away

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Why Must My Kids Hit Each Other?

Hitting, it’s the worst! Especially to see your own children hit one another. My girls use to get physical the moment there was any sort of kafuffle. The Old Me would threaten, “You hit your sister again and you won’t be able to go to the park later!” It worked in the very short term, but they always seemed to resort to hitting again.

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Using Special Time To Explore Things That Are Normally Off Limits

I had often heard that Special Time can be used by our children as a way to explore things that are normally off limits with our approval, and  I experienced this recently with my four-year-old son. He had been “experimenting” with the soap in the bathroom for a while. By this I mean he was

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Using Play to End Sibling Rivalry

I could let my son continue to show me his impulse to interfere with his sister and I didn’t have to yell at him or tell him he was a “bad” kid. I knew there was nothing wrong with my son just because he wasn’t feeling connected and his impulse control was impaired. He needed connection first, before he could have good impulse control.

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How to Help Children Share

By Rachel Schofield “Mine!” screeches my 2-year-old and I turn round to find him holding on tight to a Tonka truck. His 7-year-old brother has the other end and is pouting back, “No it’s not.” Undeterred my youngest tightens his grip and roars loudly.  Then they are screaming in each other’s faces, tussling over the

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Why My Son Cried When He Won the Game

It was nearly bedtime and we were playing a family card game. My 3 year old was tired and his behavior was flaring. Everything was wrong for him. “I don’t want that card…I don’t want to sit next to Mama…I want it to be my turn”, he whined. He was finding it hard to sit

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Is Your Toddler Too Angry to Sleep?

Is your toddler too angry to sleep? Read on to learn how to read the signs and get a solution.  By Lyra L’Estrange Does it ever seem like your toddler is just unsettled? Can’t be happy? Can’t be playful? And definitely can’t sleep? Are there days where this carries on into the night, and your toddler

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How Can I Help My Child Offload Feelings of Hurt?

Q: My son is a very dynamic four-year-old. He is attached to me and has a younger two year-old brother. What I’ve noticed is that when we are doing Staylistening, he will sometimes rapidly control his emotions and improve his overall emotional state in such a way that he’s able to go back to normal

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Playfully Brushing Teeth Part 1

Struggling with brushing teeth?  In this 3 part Video series, Kristen explains how to set a limit playfully.   Connection and laughter can help your child want to cooperate. Watch as Kristen gives examples of turning a power struggle into fun!  Continued in Part 2

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Playfully Brushing Teeth Part 2

Making it possible for your child to want to cooperate can actually be fun. Watch as Kristen gives two examples of setting a limit playfully in order to diffuse the power struggle.  Continued in Part 3

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