Category: Setting Limits

Conquering the ABCs through Staylistening

One afternoon, as I returned from work, I found my 9-year-old son and his grandmother writing out the English alphabet with beautiful coloured pens in his English class notebook. They were about to finish, when his grandmother asked him to say the English names for all the letters. My son started with enthusiasm, however, he

Read More »

Setting a Limit at the Beach Helps Make the Holiday More Fun!

On the second day, our daughter, who was two, was starting to get upset easily, not wanting to share with her brother, and generally not being happy. At first I was thinking, why is she upset? She has had some really fun happy times with us, there are lots of new and fun and different things we are doing together… we are on holiday!

Read More »

Staylistening Through Losing Butterfly Friends — and Human Ones

Kids really do know how to heal from their emotional hurts – if we can be there to listen and support them through the process. I was reminded of this recently, when my seven-year-old daughter was going through friendship challenges at school. She was one of a threesome of girls, and all of them were

Read More »

Setting Limits with Dr. Chris White & Patty Wipfler

Join Hand in Hand Founder Patty Wipfler in conversation with Dr. Chris White of Essential Parenting as they discuss setting healthy limits for children and strategies parents can use to increase connection and improve relationships at the same time. Setting limits with your child doesn’t have to be a struggle. Learn practical, and warm ways

Read More »

When My Son Only Wants Mummy

I love being a dad to my 3-year-old son, but when he pushes me away, I sometimes feel unfairly treated. He may wake up crying and I rush to him, only to be told, “Go away! I want Mummy!” Other times, he may want attention and cry out, but when I go to him, he

Read More »

Staylistening Helps Pave The Way Emotionally for A New Sibling

Last fall, my husband and I had some news which we thought would be exciting for our six-year-old daughter, but the conversation didn’t turn out the way we planned. The three of us sat down at the dinner table, and I said with a smile, “Honey, we have something we want to tell you. I’m pregnant.

Read More »

Set Limits Without Blame or Shame

I have thought a lot about what words I say to my two children when they are pushing boundaries and I need to set a limit. I have found the phrase, “I can’t let you do that” to be so helpful. Of course, physically stepping in to be close, and my body language, is just

Read More »

Listening to My Son’s Upset Helps Him with a Goodbye

Our week had been really busy, with family visiting, including my two year old nephew. My two children had played really well together with their cousin, however, with my son, there always comes a point in family visits, or holidays where the feelings he has become overwhelming for him. Even excitement, often viewed as a

Read More »

Setting Limits that Build Better Relationships Presentation

Thanks for your interest in the presentation by Danielle Hanchett Friedman, LCSW, at the Santa Clara City Library on October 5th, 2014. You can download the presentation slides here. Danielle is teaching a Parenting by Connection Starter Class in Palo Alto this fall. And you can take a free test-drive of our self-guided materials on

Read More »

Setting Limits Allows Restful Sleep

I could tell my 6-year-old daughter had something on her mind. She had been talking about something that had troubled her at school, and while I had listened empathetically, it didn’t feel like she had gotten the feeling out. Close to bedtime, she started giving me her usual off-track signals: being a bit rough with

Read More »

My Story: How Staylistening Helped My Family and Inspired Me

When my daughter was born in 2010, the first weeks with her were blissful. I had a 6-hour water birth; we were easily able to establish a good breastfeeding relationship. But after 10 days at home, her doctor told us she needed to wear a restrictive hip harness around the clock for five weeks. This

Read More »

Five Ways to Prevent Tantrums in Public

Parents have full and busy lives. It’s easy to become stressed and overwhelmed with the tasks for our day and easier still to want to move at lightning speed to “just get it done.” Yet, the more we try to push through our day, while dragging our kiddos along, the more we set the stage for a meltdown after we’ve left the house.

Read More »
Shopping Cart