Category: Setting Limits

Dad’s Listening Leads to Cooperation

Friday, September 3 2010 No Comments

I’ve been working with Cynthia on learning how to build a solid foundation through working with my daughter rather than trying to control her.

Help Your Child Offload Kindergarten Stress

Monday, July 26 2010 No Comments

This was my first experience with Stay Listening and I loved it! No need to say the right thing, counsel, negotiate, or give advice. Being present, listening, and trusting my son’s emotional processing – this felt right!

Listen, Limit, Listen

Thursday, July 15 2010 No Comments

I sat there thinking how Mother’s Day was an hour away, I would be getting up at 7 and driving to South San Francisco with my daughter and right now I am probably the absolute LAST person she wants to be with. Sigh. A Mother’s Day to look forward to.

Biting, Pushing, Pulling Hair – Helping Children with Aggression

Friday, July 9 2010 No Comments

Has your child ever lashed out and hurt someone? Has another aggressive child ever bothered him?

Working with Aggressive Behavior

Tuesday, June 29 2010 No Comments

A few days later I noticed there had been no aggressive behavior since the day of the big cry.

Listening Through a Family Change

Saturday, June 12 2010 No Comments

Given the morning conversation, I kept telling her that both mummy and daddy love her, that she was safe and that we would both continue to look after her.

My Child’s Crying Helped With A Major Accident

Tuesday, June 1 2010 No Comments

All in all, it was 8 hours of really hard crying, perspiration, and tears. I could smell his body odor—he worked up a heavy sweat.

Healing a Separation Trauma

Sunday, May 16 2010 No Comments

When your child experiences a traumatic separation, there are simple, practical things you can do to help.

The Morning Grumpies Turned Around

Monday, May 10 2010 No Comments

I moved us over to the couch and pulled him onto my lap and held him while he cried away all the cluttered emotions that were getting in his way.

Setting Limits with a Pre-Teen

Friday, May 7 2010 No Comments

My wife and I also had to process our feelings: it didn’t feel good to hear how painful it was for us to limit her social life in this way. She felt badly, we felt badly.

The Car Seat Sessions

Tuesday, May 4 2010 No Comments

Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, my son turned into Houdini and escaped from his car seat. It was now taking an average of two hours just to get a few miles.

Emotional Project – Help for Nail Biting

Friday, April 30 2010 No Comments

I talked about nail biting, how I feel about it, and how I feel about my sons doing it. It felt to me as if nail biting was one of those habits that was almost impossible to shake off. I felt that my sons were doomed to live with the habit for the rest of their lives.

Using Listening Tools at Home and at School

Friday, April 16 2010 No Comments

Later that day, when, once again, he did not get the chair he wanted, he STARTED to reach out and hit, but with pause, he stopped, and at the suggestion of another teacher to sit in another chair, he complied!

Setting Limits To Keep A Child Safe

Monday, March 29 2010 No Comments

We talked about holding hands crossing the road and I pointed out the safe places for him to ride on his own. That was good for awhile.

I’ll Help You Wait

Tuesday, March 23 2010 No Comments

I have been working on how to wait when someone else has something my son wants. It all started with hoping to teach my son how to share and play with other kids without my son hitting. Someone would have something he wanted or other way around. So, I have learned to stay close to help him during these times and hold the limit.