Category: Setting Limits

Talking About Tweens (and their Tantrums)

This week on the podcast talk turns to tweens and what it takes to parent through what can bring some on turbulent times. With Abigail parenting a double tween household and Elle raising a 10-year-old, there’s plenty of personal stories about the various trials (and joys!) of having tweens at home. We look at some

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Why Responding With Calm Helps An Upset Child

When my daughter was five and a half, we decided to take our craft project outside on a gorgeous afternoon. As soon as she sat down, a big black spider jumped on her arm and bit her. She screamed in pain and ran back inside. I followed her and saw her arm was getting swollen.

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when staylistening doesn't go as planned

Staylistening Surprises: When Things Don’t Go As Planned

If you’ve discovered the simple and seemingly radical tool of Staylistening – of staying and listening through your child’s upset – you may have been amazed by how your child recovers from that tantrum or meltdown and returns to brightness and easy co-operate. Or, you may have not! Surprise! Staylistening doesn’t always go the way

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One Way To Stay Connected As Your Kids Get Older

  How can you keep connected to your children as they get older? In this video, Roma talks about the value of listening to your tween and teen when they offload, and why this one transformational tool is so wonderful for keeping children close as they get older and begin to move away from the

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6 Things I Learned When I Brought Connection into the Classroom

Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor Sarah Charlton works as a learning support assistant with secondary school-aged children in the UK and has seen the benefits of bringing connection tools into the classroom, with teachers and pupils. Here are six illuminating lessons she learned along the way. 6 Things I Learned When I Brought Connection into

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Kids Will Cry When You Set a Limit, And That’s OK

A guest post from Marilupe de la Calle My daughter, age two, was showing signs of tension and off-track behavior. She was easily dissatisfied and cranky. As soon as we arrived back home after an outing, she demanded that we open a tin box filled with cookies that my friend had baked. Sensing that her behaviors

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Four Steps To Resolve A Child’s Big Fears

  Many children are afraid of visits to the doctor, but my daughter was TERRIFIED. She’d had a difficult birth and was in the NICU for four days; perhaps those early experiences had stayed with her. She would become terrified in the examining room, trembling, screaming and clinging tightly to me even in a routine examination

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Why I Let My Child Hit During Her Upsets

“My daughter, who is seven, always wanted to sleep in my bed. She went through a period of crying every night about sleeping alone. I listened to her cry each time, hoping it was doing some good, but I saw little relief or change. “One night, however, she became very mad and started trying to

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Playful Parenting Improves Your Child’s Manners

A Guest Post by Michelle Hartop My daughter’s manners got lost somewhere between 5 and 6 years old. Once the reigning “thank-you queen,” by school-age, she seemed bothered even receiving a gift, let alone actually thanking the giver, and my approach to use logic and discuss the importance of saying thank you and showing gratitude

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How To Set Limits That Help Children Sleep

In this post on sleep issues, we talked about using play as a tool that helps children release the minor fears and tensions that hold them back from sleeping well. Sometimes those fears run deeper and play alone isn’t quite all that’s needed to let go of those fears. How Setting Limits That Gently Insist

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How Tantrums Are Actually Beneficial to Family Life – Replay

It’s easy to feel infuriated when your child becomes rigidly uncooperative or loses it over the tiniest, most illogical thing. But what if tantrums were actually a healthy and useful phenomenon? In this call replay with Hand in Hand Instructors Marilupe de la Calle and Roma Norriss, learn more about your children’s emotions and discover

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Why Our Children Just Want To Be Heard

Sometimes the things that affect our children are not things that would upset us. In our bids to offer solutions, however well-meaning, we often forget to stop and listen. Yet one of the best solutions we can offer is space. Listening to children vent their feelings of wrongdoing or injustice can be all they need

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Understanding Why Tantrums Happen and How to Support Them

A Guest Post with Roma Norriss Tantrums are an inevitable element of childhood. No matter what we do, beginning at around age two, big upsets and crying always appear. It can be as late as six before we see them stop, although many parents see big cries from much older children too – something that

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