One thing Shelley Macy likes to avoid is being called as an expert, despite the fact she has worked for decades training teachers. Shelley is an early childhood educator working with tribal early learning programs in Washington State and Idaho. She has native heritage but was raised in the white community. “That brings a white perspective,
As Kirsten Nottleson faced the room of 30 female prison inmates, she could barely think. “We’d been told that these women were coming to the end of their sentences, that they would soon be reunified, and we’d prepared some pretty emotional stuff,” she says. But as she and her co-worker walked through the prison that
Every Monday morning, just as soon as he wakes up, my son remembers that he’s supposed to go to the kindergarten and starts protesting: “I don’t like it, mommy and I don’t want to go; please let me stay home”. I listen to him every time, I hold him gently and then I say my “no”. He
Las instructoras de Hand in Hand Marilupe de la Calle y María Ignacia del Río esperan que la conversación sobre El arte de poner límites con afecto haya sido valiosa para ti. El arte de poner límites con afecto; un regalo que fortalece la relación con nuestros hijos. ¿Terminas el día cansado de repetir una y otra…...
În multe dintre culturile occidentale există o istorie lungă privind permisiunea de a bate copiii. Mulți dintre părinții noștri foloseau această metodă de disciplinare. Cei mai mulți dintre noi credem că părinții noștri au făcut ce au putut ei mai bine ca să ne iubească. Când vine vorba despre a ne bate sau nu copiii, problema este destul de confuză – dacă noi am devenit adulți integri deși părinții noștri ne-au bătut, oare n-o fi bătaia o metodă acceptabilă, ba chiar dezirabilă de a disciplina copiii?
The outburst happened immediately after my two children’s father brought them to my home. My twelve-year-old son wanted to use his father’s phone, but his sister wouldn’t share it. He screamed, “She always gets her way!” Then he went into a rage. I could tell straight away that this was a pretext, a reason he found
Science says that limits give a good framework for children to flourish. And setting limits is an integral part of Hand in Hand’s empathetic, authoritative approach.
Saying no can be hard. Some of us avoid saying it if we feel like we just don’t have the energy for another fight and we skirt around saying “No.” For others it brings up a lot of feelings. Feelings of resentment, guilt, anger or a general feeling of discomfort or unease. These feelings can coerce us
No doesn’t have to be yelled or sound mean to be effective. Try these 17 kind ways to say no that kids do actually listen to.
A Guest Post By Lisa Tripp My six-month-old son, has had some challenges falling asleep for naps for several months, but the challenges have gotten easier and sleep has gotten more flexible for him as we’ve been using Staylistening. You can find out more about how listening to children cry and how Staylistening works
As parents, we do so much to support our children in their happiness. We make sure to get just the right balance of peanut butter and jelly on their sandwich, stock their favorite cereal, keep their comfiest pairs of socks washed and ready, and give them their favorite color cup at lunch, along with a
How often have you told your child that it’s naptime only to be met with complete disapproval? We know our children benefit from a rest midday, and may of us look forward to that window, either to get things done without another small person demanding attention, or just to rest up and prepare the afternoon and
Have you ever got home from a really crap day where EVERYTHING went wrong? You see that your darling partner has accidentally left the milk out of the fridge and you just LOSE it, ranting and screaming. Seemingly this is over the milk being left out… Has your child ever “flipped their lid” because you
I work as a learning assistant in a large comprehensive school supporting children who have a variety of special educational needs. One of the most challenging is an English class with 13 and 14 year olds. About ten children really struggle to engage or focus. One girl in particular has a reputation for being very
Sarah Charlton on Setting Loving Limits I recently began working as a learning support assistant in a UK secondary school. The job’s going well but there is one girl that I support who has been highly resistant to any help, from me or any of the other learning support assistants. She covers up her work
I have been trying to figure out respectful and efficient ways of supporting my six years old unload his negative emotions for a few years. It’s been very hard, even more, because there is no such struggle for me with my two other kids. He is my eldest son and he has a lot of pent-up,
Certified Hand in Hand Parenting Instructors, Heidi Russell and Kathy Gordon, will help you learn a simple, 3-step approach to Setting Limits. Now you can create more connection, cooperation and fun in your family. Want to learn even more about using the Hand in Hand Parenting Tools at your house? Our online video class,
Dear Hand in Hand, My daughter’s school is really pushing reading. They constantly say how reading opens the world and makes for a more ready and open learner. I’ve always thought I was quite lucky because my 7-year-old girl just loves to read. She’ll read upside down on the couch, in the car on the