Category: Setting Limits

How One Mom Kept Her Limit (and Her Calm) After a Playdate

By Andrea McCracken As the school year has got started my daughter has gotten more and more social, and wants to play with her friends often after school. One day at a friend’s house they had played, had ice cream and done more activities than would typically happen at our house. She was enjoying her

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A Seven Step Guide to Building Connection and Safety at Home

If your child has become frightened by the tones, words, or images seen in the media lately, at home, or from peers, he or she will find ways to bring up those fears that may be indirect. You might notice a sadness or weight about your child. Or his behavior may be off-track. He might

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A New Approach to Separation Anxiety in Daycare and School

In most daycare and preschools, parents are encouraged to make drop off brief. A quick kiss or hug and then out the door. But not in Shelley Macy‘s classes.  She makes efforts to welcome each parent warmly and tries not to rush them. “Warmth is a big deal to a child. They feel connected with

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Bedtime Fears: Two Games to Help

    Separating at bedtime has been a struggle for our 2-year-old for quite some time and I have done a lot of Staylistening with him on this emotional project of his. But lately, he hasn’t been having any Staylistening at all and, depending on who puts him to bed and how tired he is,

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5 Parenting Tricks To Make Halloween A Real Treat

Halloween is a time for fun, thrills and excitement, but it’s also a time for costumes, candy and chaos. No wonder children can become a little, er, “ghoulish.”

Here’s how you can use Hand in Hand’s Playlistening and Staylistening tools to overcome 5 common Halloween hurdles.

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A No-Fuss Way to Set Limits on Screen Time

My four-year-old son LOVES garbage trucks. He is obsessed with them, and not just the trucks. He loves everything to do with garbage disposal: garbage cans, recycling, compost, trips to the landfill, and the garbage itself. He sorts all of our trash and puts our cans on the curb. He wakes up an hour early

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Preschooler Crying: Amazing Transformation When a Teacher Listens

By Laura Minnigerode When I was a co-teacher in a 2-year-old class at a half-day preschool, one of the oldest children was Ryan. He was very sweet and sensitive. In free play at school Ryan did fine, but he had a lot of feelings about his dad that came up during circle time, which came immediately after. He often cried

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Special Time Helps a Preteen Open Up

  By Sarah Charlton We had just returned from a big family wedding in another part of the country and even though it had been a really good trip, we hadn’t had a lot of connection time to ourselves. We were feeling tired, so getting my son off to school the following morning had been

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How To Set Limits In Five Words or Less

Even when we bring our best selves, by not shouting, bribing or threatening children when we try and tell them no, setting limits, and having them listened to, still often feels like an uphill struggle. But there’s a simple way to reach children who are acting off-track. Use touch over words. When children are acting irrationally,

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How Listening to a Micro-Preemie Helped Relieve Her Fear

By Laura Minnigerode Emma was born so early that she identified as a “Micro-Preemie.” That is, she weighed less than 800 grams and was born before 26 weeks. When I first met her, she was about 9 months old and weighed 15lbs, and she had a lot of fears about being picked up. Her history had included

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His Needs Nearly Crushed Me

My son is now 16 months old. When he was newborn he was a nightmare. We couldn’t lie him flat for the first 6 months of his life. I couldn’t leave him for a microsecond. I now believe he may have had silent reflux, though he was never diagnosed. As a new mum I was

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Take a Time Out from Time Outs

  Your son has been acting out all day. First he grabbed his friend’s toy truck at a playdate and refused to play nicely. He threw it across the room when you asked him to return it. Then when you got home he ate just two bites of a sandwich, turned his plate upside down

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What To Do When Your Child Wants to Quit

Classes are opening and tryouts are on. But what happens if your child refuses to go? Are you respecting their wishes if you agree, or are you holding them back from opportunity? Here, one mother faces just that dilemma when her son wants to quit baseball. As she digs deeper she discovers it wasn’t the sport

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Handling Sibling Sibling Battles with Empathy

“This afternoon I could tell that my four-year-old was going off track. His behavior was erratic, and he couldn’t seem to settle. I didn’t exactly see what happened, but I heard my seventeen-month-old daughter crying. I walked over and my son said, “She just fell,” which he has been saying sometimes when he hurts her.

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Learn Five Tools That Will Transform The Way You Parent In One Week

Discover Hand in Hand’s approach and an introduction to the Five Tools for calmer, connected parenting in Days 1-6 and then see how the tools work for real-life families on Days 7 and 8. Day 1: Five Tools To Transform Your ParentingDay 2: Special Time: Building Connection in MinutesDay 3: Three Steps to Setting LimitsDay 4: Staylistening: How Does Crying

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Staylistening – How Does Crying Help You and Your Child?

What is Hand in Hand Parenting?: Day 4 Understandably, parents often become annoyed by crying and use all kinds of strategies to hush their child up. In my family, the stock threat was, “If you don’t stop your crying right now, I’ll give you something to cry about!” The policy was dead straight: “No crying

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