Category: Setting Limits

Three Steps to Setting Effective Limits With Your Kids

Most approaches to discipline assume that the adult has the intelligence and judgment, and the child must be trained. He’s seen as essentially uncivilized. It’s the child’s job to obey quickly; it’s the parent’s job to meet uncivil acts with negative responses. That means setting limits. Many modern parents have a somewhat more generous outlook

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Handling Child Disappointments

All children experience disappointments, and how they react to them can vary from upsets to rage. Unleashing these feelings of disappointment can be enough to help release the tension, but sometimes kids get stuck. Hand in Hand instructor Anca Deaconu describes how her son reacted to a disappointment with a big tantrum, and how setting a limit

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One Genius Game to Combat “I’m Tired”

You may have noticed that when children say “I’m tired,” they may not always mean it. Sometimes, “I’m tired” actually means “I’m starting to feel some uncomfortable feelings, and I can’t think of any other way to tell you.” If you suspect your child is trying to communicate this the next time you are walking,

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Sometimes the Answer Just Has To Be “No”

By Andrea McCracken As parents, we often fight with the idea of saying “no” to our children, especially if it means a big upset in public. But sometimes the behaviour that is driving us batty is because children need a definite “no” to push back from. And sometimes the best thing they can do is to push

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Why You Should Let Them Cry Before Bed

By Andrea McCracken   Usually my 3-year old daughter is quite agreeable and adaptable but she had been showing off-track behavior at bedtime for a few nights. What does off-track behavior look like? Playing at bedtime, or getting frustrated easily. Getting in and out of bed. That sort of thing. Then, one night, we had an

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What to do When your Child is a Sore Loser

By Andrea McCracken One afternoon my two daughters ‘E’ and “K’ had finished up eating and wanted to play. We settled on bingo, but as the game progressed, E determined that she wasn’t going to win the game and clearly did not like it. From that moment on, a dark cloud came over our fun

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One Way to Set a Limit With an Aggressive Child

Hand in Hand’s Laura Minnigerode uses a special limit setting tool called a vigorous snuggle with a child that scratches and grabs. The warmth and smiles she uses while saying “no,” diffuses anger and fosters connection. Here’s how to set a limit with affection even when a child has aggression.

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Ever felt ‘Not Good Enough’?’

    A guest post by Skye Munro of Nurturing Connections Recently I had the privilege of sharing my passion for connected parenting with over 200 Early Childhood professionals. But right until they entered the room I was plagued with a case of the ‘What if’s”… What if I forget what I want to say?

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In the Eye of The Storm: How To Stay through Staylistening

It can be hard to stay with your child through an intense crying session, especially if you child runs off or tells you to go away. Here’s how Hand in Hand’s Heidi Grainger Russell rode out her son’s big feelings about garbage recycling and his grandmother moving in right next door. Last summer my mother

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Saying “Sorry” Replay

Join Certified Hand in Hand Instructors Rachel Schofield and Roma Norriss as they show you how we can help kids take responsibility for their actions and give heartfelt apologies, that have an impact on others, while navigating social expectations. Looking for more resources on how to help your kids with making that heartfelt apology? Take a

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Wired to Connect: Discipline Shouldn’t Hurt

Discipline doesn’t need to hurt to be effective. In fact, it’s more effective when the child has a deep attachment to you. The end goal is to provide him with the skills, tools, and motivation to reach his fullest potential.

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Light in the Dark: Helping Your Angry Child

Earlier that night my daughter had shown us some big feelings by screaming and crying when I set a limit for no more cookies.  Now, even though it was late and much past her bedtime, I could still see we still had work to do. My daughter has a huge capacity for emotion. Just the

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15 Playful Ways To Get Children To Walk

Need help getting anywhere with a little one in tow? When our kids first learn to walk, they may be so determined it’s hard to stop them. However once the novelty wears off there may be moments when we’re on our way somewhere and they get grumpy, whiny and don’t want to walk on there own.

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Saying Sorry: A 7-Step Plan for Heartfelt Apologies

By Rachel Schofield “…Say sorry!” The little girl looks down at her shiny black shoes and pouts.  Silence. “Go on!” presses her Mum. She manages to squeeze out a sulky, “Sorry.” The whole scene is unsettling to watch. It’s painful being that squirming girl—the awkwardness, the shame, the humiliation. It’s incredibly uncomfortable being the parent

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I Want Another Cookie and I Will Not Buckle My Car Seat

We were at an impasse for at least 10 minutes. We tried to wait patiently for her to be ready to leave, but she refused to buckle her car seat and physically prevented us from helping her. Finally, after at least 10 minutes, she allowed me to help her. She was tired and angry and the look in her eyes said, “Help me. I’m in here somewhere and I can’t find myself.”

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Diffuse the ‘MINE!’: Sharing and the Give-&-Take of Relationships Replay

Listen in on Certified Parenting by Connection instructors Susan Derby and Emily Gray Murray in this free parenting seminar on Diffusing the MINE! During which you’ll learn how to support your child in being more flexible with the give-and-take of play with friends, siblings, and peers. If you want more guides, checklists, and “How Tos” on

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