Madeleine says, “the best thing I ever did was become a parent. I don’t want any parent to feel bad about themselves as a parent. No matter what the struggle, we parents are the bravest, most dedicated bunch of people I ever came across, and I feel so proud to be one.”
Madeleine was lucky to be introduced to Parenting by Connection many years before becoming a parent, and has been working with families using the approach for over 20 years. Witnessing how her own child used these Listening Tools from the beginning inspired her to share them more actively with other parents and carers. In 2009 she founded Listening to Children Through Play and has worked with hundreds of families since then.
Now the parent of a pre-teen, Madeleine is excited to be working with parents from birth through to the teens, and to be working with other parents of pre-teens to build support as children grow older and head into adolescence.
“What I love about Parenting by Connection is that it offers practical ways to recover from the mistakes we make, learn from them, and prevent difficulties in future. It means we can support and love our children the way we dreamed we would, when we first became parents. I’m not a fantastic parent or a natural player – but these Listening Tools work. In many ways, Hand in Hand (and a kitchen timer) saved the play at our house! ”
“Parenting by Connection has helped me from the start to understand that parenting is real work. Hard work, good work, but real work. One of the hardest things is not having people to plan with, share with, problem-solve with, get help from about the work of parenting. Any other job as complex as this would be much better supported. There’s nothing more of a relief as a parent than the knowledge that someone else knows, is committed to and is thinking about your children. And it turns out we can do this for each other. It’s a special thing to have someone pay you warm attention as you work out for yourself what you want to do about a particular parenting challenge or difficulty. You get to work out what will fit with your family, in your community, in your culture.”
Madeleine often works with her husband, Roewen Wishart, an experienced Parenting by Connection father. Together, they use the Listening Tools in their own parenting and relationship with one another. They love to share these Tools with friends, and like nothing better than a good old Saturday night family-and-friends wrestle.
Madeleine lives in south-western Sydney, works across Sydney including with culturally diverse communities and families for whom English is not the first language. She also loves to work with fathers. “Fathers have such a special role to play in family life, and they get so little attention as dads”.
Madeleine runs workshops and courses flexibly to meet the needs of parents, from 1 hour one-off events through to the 6 week Building Emotional Understanding Course. She also works with parents and their children, individually and in groups, coaching them in the Listening Tools. Her workshops and courses can be structured around common parenting challenges, and present each of the six Parenting by Connection Listening Tools as appropriate.
You can contact Madeleine at madeleine.s.winter “at” gmail.com or at www.facebook.com/ParentingByConnectionWithMadeleine or visit her web site at www.madeleinewinter.com
Here’s what some parents have said about her work:
“I liked being reminded that we are all good parents. The talk was structured around our questions and I wish we had longer – I could always take more listening to you, Madeleine. I really enjoyed today’s session and find this style of parenting very child focussed and child friendly.” Foster/adoptive parent of 18 month old, who attended a talk on “Helping Your Child With Their Fears and Worries” and a 3 week Parenting by Connection course “Tears, Tantrums and Other Troubles”.
“It’s working! What you’ve suggested is actually helping me not only understand these unique little people but it seems to work well with my husband too! And for the first time in ages I’ve been enjoying parenting. This is a huge shift. Thank you.” Mother of 4 year old twins and 5 year old, who attended talks on “Why Can’t They Just Get Along? Some Solutions for Sibling Rivalries” and “Why Won’t They Just Do What I Say? Limit Setting Without Saying Time-Out” and has worked with Madeleine one-on-one.
“Madeleine was great – she kept us on track. Madeleine’s like a “personal trainer” that kept reminding us “get fit”! Do you do home visits? I think you would make a great Super Nanny!” Father of baby, toddler and 10 year old, “Parenting by Connection Starter Class for Fathers”.
“I have found the parent to parent listening time very good and enjoyed it very much. Madeleine and Roewen were great facilitators and I felt very well supported.” Father of 9 year old boy, “Parenting by Connection Starter Class for Fathers”.
You can join Madeleine’s for her next Online Parenting by Connection Starter Class call group. She would love to have you there with her!