Four Steps To Resolve A Child’s Big Fears
Many children are afraid of visits to the doctor, but my daughter was TERRIFIED. She’d had a difficult birth and was in the NICU for four days; perhaps those early experiences had stayed with her.
Hand in Hand Parenting as a Trauma-Informed Caregiving Practice
Despite the growing recognition of the central role of toxic stress in childhood emotional and behavioral challenges, and mental and physical health across the lifespan, we are just beginning to develop trauma-informed responses.
Three Gentle Ways to Fight A Child’s Resistance to Bedtime or Sleep
Many children go through phases where they resist sleep, either in the day, at night or both! “How can I get my child to nap?” This question came to us from a parent recently. The mom’s
Simple Ways to Be a More Peaceful Parent
Finding ways to be a peaceful parent is much simpler than we make it out to be.
Belynda Smith
When I became a parent I was besotted! I read everything I could find on how to help my son thrive. Yet we struggled tremendously with sleeplessness, tantrums, aggression and a variety of life challenges.
“Hurry up!” Working On My Fears of Being Late
I am almost never late. I have this fear of things going horribly wrong if I am late. Even for the school run, where they’re quite relaxed about lateness, I’m always 20 minutes early. As
Understanding A Child’s Meltdown
A child’s meltdown is often the quickest way to heal the upset. Distracting with food, or promises of getting another toy, allows the upset feeling to be prolonged. The child will then find another pretext
This is Why You Lose it With Your Kids
Have you ever lost it with your child over something and not understood why? Why your son’s clinginess on a playdate drives you crazy? Why you snap if you see your oldest daughter hit your
How Parenting Triggers Past Hurts (and What You Can Do About It) – Replay for Parents
Join Certified Instructors Sandra Flear and Robin Setchko for this podcast for parents and professionals. They discuss what interpersonal neurobiology is teaching us about how early memories are formed, and how parenting can trigger the
How Parenting Triggers Past Hurts (and What You Can Do About It) – Replay for Professionals
Join Certified Instructors Sandra Flear and Robin Setchko for this replay of a previous free parenting call for parents and professionals. During this call they discussed what interpersonal neurobiology is teaching us about how early
Getting A Handle on Holiday Stress
We all know the festive season from Thanksgiving through to New Year is supposed to be a time of joy, but often by October holiday stress already has many of us stressed, particularly if last
Relational Trauma, Neuroplasticity, and Tools for Parents
For parents, neurobiology now provides insights into how our memories affect our everyday interactions with our children, and helps us understand how we can repair the damage left by our own difficult early experiences.
Establishing Good Listening Partnerships & What If It Feels Like It’s Not Working?
Listening Partnerships are a wonderfully supportive way to gain clarity in your parenting. When things at home feel strained, five or 10 minutes with a trusted listening partner can be just what we need to
My Child Calls Me “Mean Mom.” What Should I Do?
It’s a Monday morning, everyone is grumpy, and your child does not want to get out of bed. “You’re so mean!” your child shouts as you tell her it’s time to get up. “I hate
How to Make Screen Time Special Time
With the infiltration of screens at home and at school, it can be hard knowing where to Set Limits on screen time with children. Often, screen times seem to alienate. Your child goes off into
Why Does My Child Always Want Mom?
Our son is nearly three years old. He still goes through some separation anxiety when he’s without his mom. We usually put him to bed together, but the other night, my wife needed a break.
Hold The Limit, Honor the Struggle: Homework Battles and How to Help
It’s the beginning of the school year, and as surely as leaves will drop, so will the homework. Pages and pages of it. Sometimes whole binders worth. Homework can be the source of many arguments,
“I See You’re Having A Hard Time”: Why Connection Doesn’t Reward “Bad Behavior”
We’ve all had those mornings. The one that begins like nothing will ever be right again: “I do not want to get dressed. I want breakfast.” “I don’t want cereal. I want oatmeal.” “I