Why Limits Are Vital for Young Children
Thursday, November 10 2011
Words don’t work well in setting limits with children of any age! Move in close, offer a tone of generosity and warmth, and gently but firmly stop the unworkable behavior.
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Helping a Toddler with Biting
Monday, November 7 2011
I had cared for one toddler at my day care center throughout his infancy and we had shared many good and close times together. He began biting other toddlers a few months after he had
Three-Step Plan to Help Your Picky Eater
Thursday, October 20 2011
You can’t pour honey on a fear, or dress it up, or talk a child out of it. A fear is a feeling, and no logic or trick can pry a feeling out of a child.
Staying With A Daughter’s Fears Helps Her Overcome Them
Sunday, October 16 2011
Dear Patty, Recently our three year old daughter has been having trouble going to the bathroom. She had a rash about a week ago, all healed now, and still has fears about going because it
Try A Weekend of Special Time To Help Problem Behavior
Wednesday, October 12 2011
Often times my son will walk by his siblings and push them down or punch them on their backs or yell in their faces. If they are doing something that irritates him, he will get extremely close and ball up his fists and visibly shake with anger.
A Game to Help Children with Shyness in Groups
Saturday, October 8 2011
Hi Patty, Group settings, especially large group settings, are very difficult for my daughter. I see a little girl who has some real fears of these situations, and it really hurts to see others judging
Transform Hair Washing Upsets
Monday, August 1 2011
When my son was about 21 months old, he started to hate having water poured over his head when I washed his hair in the bath. He would scream and scream every time, even when
How Does Connection Play Help with Homework?
Thursday, July 28 2011
Halfway through the first grade, my 7-year-old did not want to write or spell at home or school anymore. This was new for him. It seemed to me like the expectations for the first graders
Transitioning from TV
Saturday, June 25 2011
I believe the studies that suggest that TV isn’t really helpful for children because such passivity occurs for the viewer. Yet, I’d let the viewing get out of hand during a difficult few weeks. So,
Repairing a Relationship After Yelling
Sunday, June 12 2011
When his Dad came home from work he gently said, “If you are going to shout could you tell me first and I’ll go and get the box and you can shout into that instead.” I thought his was wonderful! He was confident and thinking well enough to do something to try and help his Dad to stop shouting.
The “Wrong” Sippy Cup
Wednesday, May 18 2011
Last night, my son (27 months) was having a typical evening, in a pretty good mood generally but, as usual, resisted having his teeth brushed. I brushed them just a little bit, let him brush
Listening through a Homework Challenge
Sunday, April 10 2011
My daughter was given a month to learn all the states and their capitals. She’s in fifth grade. About two weeks before the due date, she had learned some states, but not many, and I
“I Need the Rescue Squad!”
Thursday, March 24 2011
I was in a listening session with my phone group, and I just broke down with a feeling of being totally overwhelmed by all I have taken on in my life. Day job, launching a
I Love You No Matter What Feelings You Are Having
Saturday, February 5 2011
It felt like an MFA in parenting! I think he really got the message that I love him and accepted his feelings and would not punish him for sharing them. Which now I realize I WAS doing in the past even though I had NO IDEA I was doing that!
Thumb-sucking and Holding Feelings Inside
Sunday, January 16 2011
We have raised my 6-year old daughter with Parenting by Connection ideas. One of my daughter’s friends sucks his thumb often. Suddenly, she began experimenting with sucking her thumb—she had never used her thumb as