Talking Snow Boots
Wednesday, March 3 2010
I asked her if she could tell me what was bothering her about the boots. She took the boots and threw them.
Tag: preschoolers
Emotional Project – Toilet Troubles
Saturday, February 27 2010
The next time I saw him on tippy toes, with a worried look on his face, I moved towards him and put my arms around him. I said “Hey mate, it looks like you need to do a poo. I’m going to help you”. That was all he needed to start crying – he fought hard against me as he cried, “No, No, NO! I don’t want to.”
My Child Stopped Drawing: How to Help a Child Regain Confidence
Monday, February 8 2010
I knew that she was judging herself harshly, and I wanted to see if she could work through it.
Helping My Son Sleep in His Bed
Thursday, February 4 2010
So, the night before last seemed the perfect night to put my limit setting to the test. When my youngest woke up and wanted to come to our bed, I said in a loving tone, “No. I’m going to go sleep with Aba (dad), and you are going to stay here in bed with your brother.”
How I Cooled My Son’s “Hot Button” Issues
Tuesday, January 26 2010
I normally listen to his big feelings when he brings an upset to me, using Staylistening in response to his cues. This time, I decided that I wanted to help him with both these issues because they affected our daily life, and because they weren’t getting better on their own.
Crying Brings Peace and Relaxation
Friday, January 22 2010
I was calm and felt an internal peace I have not had in a while. I knew I was there for her and that it was not my responsibility to “make her” feel better, that she just needed to to feel her pain, confusion and anger.
Listening to Angry Feelings
Wednesday, December 30 2009
She immediately got very upset and began crying and screaming at me. I moved closer to her and she began to scream at me to go away.
Siblings Give Each Other Special Time
Tuesday, December 22 2009
After I had my daughter I didn’t know whether I wanted to have a second child. I didn’t really understand the benefits of having a sibling.
Staylistening – In Stereo
Monday, December 7 2009
After about 10 minutes, my husband came in and said, ‘how do you know you’re not hurting them or making things worse?’ I had to shout over their wailing that we were on the right track and even predicted that, at the end of all this, one sister would genuinely give the toy to the other.
Staylistening Ends A History of Grabbing
Wednesday, December 2 2009
As soon as another child would begin playing with a toy, he would come over and either hit the child or grab the toy away.
Getting Dressed with Humor
Tuesday, November 10 2009
Desperate, one day, to get my active and resistant 3-year-old dressed, I came up with this game.
A Gentle “No”
Monday, October 26 2009
Whatever I said, the answer was “NO!” He was really out of kilter.
A Grandma Listens
Monday, October 5 2009
The Daddy was trying to talk his daughter out of the tantrum, but our teacher kept gently reminding him that this was exactly what his little girl needed to do, and that she was smart to work on her feelings so vigorously.
Throwing Food, Not Tantrums
Tuesday, September 15 2009
After dinner, I remembered the Hand in Hand idea of allowing “taboo” things during Special Time.
The Yellow Car
Saturday, September 5 2009
Our older son tore it out of his brother’s hands and said that he was playing with it.