Handling the Tension of Cancer in the Family
Listening Tools have been so helpful for us.
Listening Tools have been so helpful for us.
I have never been able to put into words how I feel. It seemed inconceivable how I could express so much love. Afterward, I felt like a great mother.
I really blew it. I said, “What are you DOING?! You wrecked it! I can’t believe you did that!” I was yelling on and on. (It’s so awful when you make such a big obvious mistake.) Anyhow, my son put his head in the sofa pillow and cried. So I went over to him. He kept turning away from me. I apologized. I said I’d made a mistake.
Feeling terrified and completely overtaken by an even bigger need to speak out, I raised my hand and suggested we partner up and each take five minutes to talk about and acknowledge how WE were feeling.
I felt like his partner and ally rather than a victim of his frustration.