Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges - eBook - digital book

Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

In this heartfelt and practical guide, Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore bring decades of experience to the table, offering parents the tools they need to navigate the complexities of raising children. Additional book formats including Kindle Ebook and Audiobook are available, as well as foreign language versions of the paperback in French, German, Chinese and Romanian — see links in the description below.


Parenting is challenging, but it can also be deeply rewarding. “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges” gives you the guidance and support you need to create a nurturing, connected family environment.

Whether you’re dealing with tantrums, defiance, or everyday stresses, the 5 key tools in this book will help you turn challenges into opportunities for growth and connection.

    Put your child in charge for a short amount of time, as you delight in them.
    Stop off-track behaviour with love, listening, and respect.
    Listen deeply with warm attention at the most challenging times.
    Connect as you take the less powerful role and listen for the laughter.
    Exchange listening time with another adult to release stress.

These tools are grounded in the evidence-based, trauma-informed Hand in Hand Parenting approach, which focuses on building strong, empathetic connections between parents and children, using listening, emotional support, and play to address behavioral challenges and foster resilience.

The book “Listen” is divided into 4 sections:

  • Part 1. “A new perspective on parenting”.
  • Part 2. “Your powerful parenting toolbox” – all about the 5 Tools.
  • Part 3. “Solutions for everyday parenting challenges” – real-life examples for building cooperation, responding to separation anxiety, lifting fears, and moving beyond aggression.
  • Part 4. “Our future, connected” – practical ideas around connecting when you’re at wits’ end and building support for your parenting.

After reading this book, you will have:

  • Discovered ways to deepen your connection with your child, fostering a more loving and secure relationship and a more harmonious home.
  • Gained confidence in your parenting because you now have Tools that help you navigate difficult moments without feeling overwhelmed or stressed.
  • Improved your ability to listen and respond to your child’s needs, leading to better understanding and cooperation.
  • A supportive network around you, so you feel supported and less alone.

Praise for the book “Listen”

“A science-informed, practical strategy for parenting our children well” – Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.

“[Listen] captures the heart and soul of Patty Wipfler’s groundbreaking work with parents and families” – Lawrence Cohen, PhD.

“You wouldn’t think a parenting book would be a page-turner but this one is.” – Laura Markham, PhD.

“The book is wonderful in every way—and that is very rare. I believe this book is going to be a blessing for everyone who picks it up, not only parents.” – Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT

“The authors incorporate some simple principles drawn from the fields of neuroscience, psychotherapy, and attachment theory to give their advice a solid theoretical foundation.” – Stan Tatkin, Psy D, MFT

“Brimming with compassionate, insightful and practical advice” – Marguerite A. Wright, Ed. D.

In 2024, the book “Listen” received the Award for Literary Excellence from The Institute of Child Psychology. The Award for Literary Excellence celebrates outstanding contributions to the literature that advance the understanding of child psychology.

Ready to transform your parenting journey? Order your copy of “Listen” today!

You can purchase print copies of Listen anywhere books are sold. The book can be purchased on, Amazon, at Barnes and Noble, and at independent bookstores everywhere. See below for additional book formats and language options that are available.

About the authors:

Patty Wipfler is the Founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, a non-profit organisation that provides support and resources for parents and professionals working with children and parents. During her over 40 years of work with parents and children, she had developed a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection.

Tosha Schole, M.A., is a Hand in Hand Trainer, parent coach, writer, and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.

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