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patty-bio-picPatty Wipfler is the author of the upcoming book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. She was born, raised and educated in California, graduating from Occidental College in 1968, and is the mother of two sons. The focus of her work since 1974 has been teaching basic listening, parenting, and leadership skills to parents. She directed The School, a non-profit parent co-operative preschool in Palo Alto, and later directed Neighborhood Infant Toddler Center for Palo Alto Community Child Care. She has led over 400 residential weekend workshops for families and for leaders of parents in the U.S. and in 23 countries.

In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. As Director, she has written 14 booklets, produced videotapes and audiotapes, and has written over 100 articles for Hand in Hand on the principles and benefits of Parenting by Connection. To date, Hand in Hand has sold over 800,000 of these booklets in English, Spanish, Chinese and Japanese.

Patty Wipfler’s articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families, Child Welfare News, and in many local newsletters for parents. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China.

Patty lives with her husband in Palo Alto, California.

Velma found out about Hand in Hand Parenting in 2012 and became an instructor in 2017. Hand in Hand helped her learn how to love her self and her son well in easy, as well as challenging times. She is passionate about helping parents thrive, loving children in all their moods, and learning to play to build connection.

Velma has experience with early NICU trauma, supermom syndrome, postpartum depression, separation anxiety and child aggression.

Velma lives in St. Louis, Missouri and works in the local community with parents and schools.

Juli-Retreat-HeadshotJulianne Idleman has been with Hand in Hand since 2006. She brings many years of experience in corporate training, organizational design and personnel management to her work in the non-profit sector. Juli writes about parenting and family life. She edits our monthly newsletter, Connecting!, and has spoken on National Public Radio.

Juli has been using Parenting by Connection tools since 2002 to connect with her school age daughter and two young adult stepchildren. She enjoys sharing the science behind Parenting by Connection with other parents, “No pressure, folks, but that game of peek-a-boo you just played built new neural connections in your baby’s brain. The deep breath you took instead of yelling at the teenager who’s pushing all your buttons just allowed them a moment to practice regulating their own emotional states. What you do to promote connection, even the very small things, matters.”

Juli is active in the homeschooling community and also volunteers to support the social and emotional needs of gifted students. Juli develops educational gardening programs and especially enjoys working with toddlers. 

Juli lives with her husband and daughter in San Jose, CA

Hear Juli’s talk: ‘The Science Behind Setting Limits’

Read Juli’s posts on our blog:

Parenting by Connection

Read Juli’s articles: 

The Challenges of Early Attachment
I Swore I’d Never Say That!

IMG_20160130_110827Elle is from the UK. Her background is in content creation for high-end brands and travel.

She lives in Hong Kong with her husband Rick and their two kids in Hong Kong. Reia is 8, creative, and an aspiring fashion designer, and Rafferty is 4 and crazy for emergency vehicles.