I was calm and felt an internal peace I have not had in a while. I knew I was there for her and that it was not my responsibility to “make her” feel better, that she just needed to to feel her pain, confusion and anger.
I held firm because I knew it was helpful to her to offload the feelings and helpful for me in the long term to be able to go out to eat without her having all this fear. I really want her eating in general to be more flexible. I stayed in the back and offered my warmth and attention while she went wild. I felt good about it because I had empathy for her, felt no rush, and felt I was able to give her this gift of my caring during a difficult time.
A growing body of research shows that most teens suffer from chronic sleep deprivation, due to a biological change that occurs during adolescence. It is well documented that such sleep deprivation impairs the ability to be alert, pay attention, solve problems, cope with stress and retain information.