The summer before Susan Derby began a graduate degree in Social Work she decided to run a class on connection parenting skills to a group at a non-profit housing facility in Los Angeles, CA. The organization provides shelter for homeless families with children, and Susan, a Hand in Hand Instructor, thought that visiting would be
what seemed to make the most difference in our connection was the “mini” Special Time sessions that I did for five minutes — just five minutes! — before heading out the door for work, on the mornings she was awake before 7 a.m. No matter how late I was running, I could make time for five minutes of Special Time.
Sometimes, in our house, it’s fine to eat candy. Sometimes — like when it’s 30 minutes before bedtime and we’ve already had sweets earlier in the evening — it’s not. My five year old daughter was really, really wanting to have candy at 8:30 p.m. one night, and I felt pretty clear that it was not the right time for such a thing.