Welcome to your class!
The aim of the class is to help you reshape your relationship with your child who tends to hit or to be aggressive in other ways. We'll give you a fresh understanding of what motivates your child's aggressive behavior, and offer strategies, one by one, for reducing the stress that triggers hitting. And we'll outline steps you can take to reduce the stress that enters the relationship from your side, so your interventions tend to help, rather than add to the stress of the moment.
Every step we’ve outlined on the videos is a necessary step in that effort. Read ahead in the Listening to Children booklets, if you like, but don’t skip steps in your use of the Listening Tools we outline. The steps have been carefully structured to bring you the very best chance of excellent results.
Please plan on spending a good amount of time with our class materials. You’ll have access to the materials in this classroom for a year, so feel free to take the steps slowly, or to go back over some of the videos and charts more than once. If you need an extension just contact our office and we will gladly give you more time.
The class materials are organized by week in the Lessons. Take some time to review the entire course, and then begin with the Lesson 1 Video 1. The length of each video is listed in minutes and seconds so you can try and create enough time to watch each segment in its entirety.
You will receive the Listening to Children e-booklets in .pdf format. They’re short. They’ll help you build a more complete understanding of your child’s emotional workings, and they are yours to keep. Please do read them: there's a fuller explanation of the Parenting by Connection approach than we can convey in short videos. Feel free to download the .pdf file to your desktop or e-reader.
To build a Listening Partnership, we recommend asking a fellow parent you respect to try the experiment with you. Ask them to read Listening Partnerships for Parents, and dive in! If you can’t think of someone you’d like to have as your Listening Partner, join our online community and register to find parents who are looking for a Listening Partner. We have provided a 27 minute .mp3 of one side of a Listening Partnership for you in Bonus Materials, along with a short narrative to help you focus on the listening principles that are being used.
In Lessons, at the end of each week's video list, you’ll find the charts I refer to in the videos, so you can review them without hunting for them. These charts stay with our classroom.
May your discoveries be many, and may your connection with your child grow as you use our Listening Tools to improve life for yourself and your child!