August 3, 2021
Welcome to your self-guided class! I hope this note will help you make good use of this course.
The aim of the class is to help you bolster your connection with your tween by providing tools and information that help you understand your tween's needs, and help you feel good your parenting. We hope you will experiment again and again with our Listening Tools, which are designed to help your tween notice that you care, feel seen and heard, and offload feelings of upset so he or she become more easygoing, connected, and flexible.
Every step we’ve outlined on the videos is a necessary step in that effort. Read ahead in the Listening to Children booklets, if you like, but don’t skip the steps we've outlined as you use the Listening Tools. They have been carefully structured to bring you the best chance of making a positive difference.
Please spend regular time experimenting with Listening Tools. You’ll have access to the materials in this classroom for a year, so take the steps slowly. Experiment again and again, and review the videos and charts more than once. Learning any new skill takes time and effort! You'll be learning as much from what doesn't go well as from your successes, so don't stop trying! All of us who practice this approach find ourselves doing “the wrong thing” over and over again still! We parents are learners. Embrace the moments that don't go well, and see what you can learn from them! You've got a good child who, at heart, really wants to be in synch with you.
The class materials are organized by week in the modules tab on the left side of your screen. Take some time to review the entire course, view the Introduction, and then begin with the Lesson 1, Video 1. The length of each video is listed by it's name in minutes and seconds, for your convenience
The Listening to Children e-booklets in .pdf format are included in your classroom. They’re short. They’ll help you build a more complete understanding of your tween’s emotional workings, and they are yours to keep. Please do read them: there's a fuller explanation of the Parenting by Connection approach than we can convey in our short videos. Feel free to download the .pdf file to your desktop or e-reader. Many of the anecdotes in those booklets are about younger children, but your tween was once younger, so think about your tween's life history and what he or she has been through in earlier years.
In Modules, we've included these items
• a set of additional anecdotes that pertain to the lessons in each class, so you will have access to stories from parents who use our Listening Tools with their tweens.
• a copy of the visual aids you see in the videos, so you can review them. These charts are copyrighted. We ask you not to duplicate or distribute them.
• further documents that we think might be helpful to you as you think about the topics we've covered in that class.
To build a Listening Partnership, please see the short document we've posted in addition to the videos in Class 1. You'll find several links that will lead to additional resources and some brief ideas of how to begin exploring this powerful tool for refueling your attention and building real support.
We cannot answer questions in this classroom. Please bring your questions to one of our moderated Hand in Hand online groups on Facebook or Yahoo.
May your discoveries be many, and may your connection with your tween grow as you use our Listening Tools to improve their life, and yours!
Patty Wipfler and the entire Hand in Hand staff and Instructor team