The Surprising Truth About Separation Anxiety


Are you ready to learn the real reason your child gets anxious about leaving you? Want to know the magic words you an say to help your child? Are you ready for shorter goodbyes and easier transitions?

In this video, you'll learn

  • The real reasons your child experiences separation anxiety
  • What you can do to help your son or daughter move past those feelings
  • The magic words you can use to help your child heal their hurt

You'll also learn:

  • Why reassuring your child can make her cry
  • Why those tears are actually a good thing

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4 thoughts on “The Surprising Truth About Separation Anxiety

  1. Hi!
    I recently discovered your site and your tools – wonderful for me 🙂
    My question about this video is for how long I should reasure my child? Until she is ok and stops crying? Only after this is safe for me to get out of the house?

    • Hi There Mumma, my name is Georgie and I am a Parenting By Connection instructor. I just had a look at your question and wanted to say that yes, you are spot on, you listen for as long as your child needs. As Patty said, you continue until your child doesn’t have any more big feelings. Good luck 🙂

  2. I’m so glad I’ve discovered you a few months ago, Patty. You’ve changed my life and there’s nothing more to say to it. Thank you.

    You are so right about us parents putting into words, simple, kind words exactly what the child needs to hear, at the right moment, as if we were responding to something the child actually said. And he IS “saying” by the way he is acting!
    In this particular situation you talked about, I think that if the child could speak like an adult, he or she will say: “I’m afraid that you will not come back and pick me up!”. The child very rarely can find the power and confidence to say these words, it’s like he is afraid that if he said this out loud, it will become true.
    So a parent should just “answer” this unspoken question or fear by saying “I’ll always come back” (when it’s about separation) or “you are so important to me” (when the child makes a tantrum about not being seen) and so on.
    I feel so happy I understand this and I must say how beautiful it “works” every single time. I might not put my finger on the right issue every time BUT by simply trying to do this, by simply asking myself every time “what is this child trying to say to me?” I have realized that my child gets so much good attention, he feels I’m really there and I’ve come to know my child better now.

    Thank you

    • My name is Georgie and I am an instructor with Hand in Hand. I just wanted to say – such beautiful words. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

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