You may never have planned on homeschooling.
Your kids may be stunned or overjoyed.
If all of a sudden here you are again, juggling work, home life and your kid's learning.
If you are suddenly (or soon to be) at home with your kids way more than you had planned, Hand in Hand Instructor and homeschooler Hannah Gauri Ma shares some sanity-saving tips.
Use these to boost connection and build joy to give your ‘lock-in' every chance of being a “fun-in”
1- Create A Fill-My-Bucket List:
Get together with your kids and draw up a (fill my) ‘bucket list' of things they want to do during a quarantine. You can just write it as a long list that you tick off, or you can chart it in other creative ways, including different points allocated for different activities and effort. For example, to reach 100 Happy Points, over your time together. The key here is that you are engaging with them, getting not just their buy-in but really taking into account their feelings, their needs and their wishes.
2- Rack up Some Rhythm:
Make a conscious decision to create a rhythm to your days. Schools do this. For us – in our homeschooling – we build in little touchstone moments, segments the kids love, come to expect and look forward to, sprinkled through the day.
We are not super rigid with it, we are flexible and bend, but we have favourite rituals and activities we come back to most days (at roughly the same time).
Examples for us include:
- Play a board game in the morning (seriously, my youngest will literally bring a game to me while I am still in bed sometimes. Win-win. He gets connection. I get a lie-in. Home educating has its perks);
- ‘Magical reading hour' (more about that, in a moment) – which we literally ring in with a bell, each time;
- Daily green smoothie;
- Piano practice
- Special Time (again, more about that in a mo). All of these segments come at a predictable time in our routine.
There is a flow to our days and that makes everything easier, at least for us.
3- Ready to Read Aloud:
We call it ‘magical reading hour.' Reading aloud to/with your kids has so many benefits. From building attention span and vocabulary to nurturing empathy, creativity and imagination as well as providing a launchpad for myriad deep, juicy discussions about history, politics, music, social context… not to mention literary analysis, of course!
4- Special Time:
This is the awesome sauce that relieves behavioural issues and sibling rivalry. It’s quite simple but incredibly powerful. Set a timer and spend a short amount of time (usually between 10 and 20 minutes – certainly not more than 30) giving your COMPLETE attention to ONE child. That is key. It is one-to-one time with a guarantee of no interruptions (Read about how to do Special Time when you have more than one child). AND the kid gets to lead 100%. It is their time, their choice. They get to chose what to play or not play. You can have some safety limits but that really should be it.
This is about them.
They lead. You follow.
Your main job is to pour your delight into your child. Focus on what they are interested in, for those 10-20 minutes.
Be positive and supportive.
Do not fix, rescue or ‘adjust’ their ideas, plans and creations.
Your warm attention and joyful connection is like balm for their soul. And as you ‘fill their happiness bucket’ in this way, you really re-set them emotionally and have a bigger chance of seeing the best of them in the hours to come.
A connected child is a contended and cooperative child.
One note…sometimes Special Time creates so much safety that it actually allows kids to show us MORE of their pent-up emotions/tears/tantrums. That’s another story. That’s them being smart and using your attention to offload those feelings…you can read more about how that in this guide to Special Time. But for now, know that Special Time is a real go-to for maintaining a connected family.
5- Bake and Cook Together.
Because it’s fun… and then you can eat it.
6- Spend Time in Nature:
You have to be apart from other people… that does not mean you have to be apart from a forest or field or beach. Nature is just the best way to re-set, re-energise and spend HOURS playing without even remembering or thinking about screens. In fact, if the kids are squabbling and you add space, that is often enough to completely change the mood, giving them a new focus as they naturally take to climbing, racing and imaginative play in the woods (for example).
7- Skype Playdates with Family and Friends:
Anything to give the kids (and you) some extra connection and FaceTime with people they love and who love them AND to give you 15mins off to think or, you know, go to the toilet.
8- Let the Music Play:
Music is healing and uplifting. Play music, sing, dance. Explore music linked to books you are reading together. Have a dance party in the kitchen. Make up songs together. Or, pick up some instruments and have an impromptu jam session.
9- Milk the Resources:
There's plenty online that can make good teachers. For this short time at home, consider using educational apps, play books on audible or Spotify, watch documentaries, use online thinking games, sudoku, and logic problems, and download activity sheets or books.
10- Get Physical:
Do as much roughhousing, full-body style play as you can pull off. Play tag, hide-and-seek, wrestle, have pillow fights, sock fights, balloon pong, bucking bronco, airplanes, wacky races.
Even if you play for just 5 minutes a day but do it with your full heart your kids will thank you.
The more you all giggle together, the happier your time together will be – not just in those moments, but after, too, as laugher is really one of the best ways to relieve stress.
11- Get on YouTube Tutorials:
This platform gives plenty of step-by-step in art, crafts or science projects, providing a whole focus for a day or week’s worth of self-paced projects. Letting your kids choose what to do keeps them more engaged. You can do the project with them for more connection or let it be something they do on their own, while you use the time to catch up on chores or your work.
12- Do a Daily Challenge:
If you are trying to pack in some education, you might find your children resist.This can happen because they’re used to associating school with (enforced) learning and you with time off.
Try making this more fun by daily challenge up on the fridge or pinboard.
My kids love this, not least because it is always optional. They get to do it if and when it feels fun to engage with. You can try this with subjects they are studying, from numbers counts and multiplication to language skills, or try some challenges less obvious educational bent (while being educational!). There are 10 great challenge ideas here.
13 – Get Support and Connection for you:
You won’t be able to take good care of your kids and create ‘wonder and joy’ at home if you are overwhelmed, underwater emotionally or struggling.
Do whatever you can to top up YOUR cup. The best way I know if Listening Partnerships, which are free, can be done online and are such a great way to offload tension and re-find your own centre. Get this free guide to Listening Partnerships to get started.
14 – Don't Shrug Off Self-Care:
Meditate, do some yoga, chant, sing and dance for you…on your own or WITH the kids. Like Listening Partnerships, self-care is about keeping yourself as grounded and uplifted as you can.
The more resourced you are, the better you’ll be able to respond to your kids. You'll do better being creative and making this strange time we find ourselves in a positive time they remember.
15 – Plan In “Surprises”:
Rhythm is important, but so is being crazy, spontaneous and surprising your kids. There's plenty of ways to mix things up:
- Hold a candlelit dinner
- Plan a movie night with popcorn
- Camp out in the living room overnight
- Play an impromptu game of charades
- Hide a string of clues or a treasure map to find their breakfast
These ideas have sparked my creativity in our own homeschooling experience, helping us connect, have fun and turn this ‘challenge’ into a time to remember… fondly!
It won’t always be easy, with rainbows and unicorns, so here's the biggest thing to remember: Be kind and forgiving of yourself along the way…
What ideas would you add? What are your go-to fun family games, activities or ways to keep the kids and the whole family happy for long stretches at home?
This post first appeared on ‘Loving Earth Mama’.
More to help keep things calm during Coronavirus:
Here's how to respond without inciting more fear: Answering A Child's Questions About Shocking News Stories
Homework refusals? Here's why it happens and what you can do
Bored kids? This will help: How to Deal with Your Child's Boredom