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CalendarIf you’ve discovered the simple and seemingly radical tool of Staylistening – of staying and listening through your child’s upset – you may have been amazed by how your child recovers from that tantrum or meltdown and returns to brightness … Continue reading
Yes! You can play when your child is upset. Here’s how: Your child grabs the one extra cookie you said he wasn’t allowed… What do you do? Or your daughter whines the minute she sees you pull out peanut butter … Continue reading
After about 10 minutes, my husband came in and said, ‘how do you know you’re not hurting them or making things worse?’ I had to shout over their wailing that we were on the right track and even predicted that, at the end of all this, one sister would genuinely give the toy to the other. Continue reading
A guest post by Skye Munro of Nurturing Connections Have you ever got home from a really crap day where EVERYTHING went wrong? You see that your darling partner has accidentally left the milk out of the fridge and you … Continue reading
Our parents, for the most part, didn’t listen to us while we were having passionate feelings. This had never been modeled for them. We, in turn, are sometimes at a loss as to what to say. We might manage … Continue reading
We went away camping with four other families. Between us, we had eleven kids between the ages of 1 and 7. The weather was beautiful. We cooked over a wood fire and the kids hung out playing well and laughing … Continue reading
My oldest son, Hunter, was having a very hard time when his father left for work in the morning. Each morning, he screamed, fought and threatened, trying to hold on to his dad, crying and pleading with him to keep him … Continue reading
A Guest Post with Roma Norriss Tantrums are an inevitable element of childhood. No matter what we do, beginning at around age two, big upsets and crying always appear. It can be as late as six before we see them … Continue reading
My six-year-old daughter often had difficulties with transitions, but it was difficult to predict when she might have an especially hard time. One morning, she, her nine-year-old brother, and I were doing just fine getting ready for school. However, when … Continue reading
One afternoon, as I returned from work, I found my 9-year-old son and his grandmother writing out the English alphabet with beautiful coloured pens in his English class notebook. They were about to finish, when his grandmother asked him to … Continue reading
My son had been through periods of using his small potty, but for some reason, he had become resistant. I tried putting him in underwear, hoping the natural consequences would help him learn, but it didn’t work. He did not … Continue reading
In Potty Training Experience: Playlistening, we explored the healing role that laughter can play when a child has unworkable fears. The mother who wrote in had a three-and-a-half year old daughter who was absolutely terrified of using the toilet. Our … Continue reading
It was sports day at my children’s new school. My daughter, 8, was in the first of her races and was keen to “get a place,” as she put it – meaning she wanted to come in first, second or … Continue reading
People were rushing over to offer first aid and ice. I said that we might need it later but that we were fine for now. Some of the people looked at me with disbelief and what I interpreted as negative judgment but I decided to focus on my son. I really wanted to try to listen & be present, as I had heard beautiful stories of how that could benefit the emotional & physical healing process. Continue reading
My husband was putting my daughter to sleep at bedtime when she realized she had left her lovey, “Twinkle Bug,” at her girlfriend’s house after a sleepover. She started to freak out, screaming, “I cannot go to sleep without her! … Continue reading
One afternoon when I was picking up my 1st grader from school, his friends told me he had a bad day. According to them, he was tripped many times in PE and got excluded in the playground as he “bended” … Continue reading
As soon as another child would begin playing with a toy, he would come over and either hit the child or grab the toy away. Continue reading
A Guest Post by Emilie Leeks We’d only just left for the shops when our youngest, who is three, slipped off his scooter. It was quite a tumble, and he was clutching at his legs and sobbing. I sat … Continue reading
It was nearly bedtime and we were playing a family card game. My 3 year old was tired and his behavior was flaring. Everything was wrong for him. “I don’t want that card…I don’t want to sit next to Mama…I … Continue reading
I have thought a lot about what words I say to my two children when they are pushing boundaries and I need to set a limit. I have found the phrase, “I can’t let you do that” to be so … Continue reading
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