Hand in Hand Community
What if you knew how to transform your child’s behavior today… and every day?
The Hand in Hand Community gives you direct access to Hand in Hand Mentors every single day so you can get direct, personalised support for any behavior you are struggling to manage.
You’ll get advice on how to use the Hand in Hand Tools specifically in your situation and apply them with thoughtfulness and compassion, in a way that nurtures your relationship with your child.
Ready to move on from frustration and overwhelm?
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Ever doubted your parenting?
Parenting with connection makes so much sense it feels like it should be second-nature...
So why isn't it?
When your child is overwhelmed by their emotions, or you feel yourself losing patience in the middle of yet another sibling disagreement, it can feel like everything is falling apart.
If you go to sleep determined to do things differently tomorrow and then find yourself yelling 10 minutes after you’ve woken up, don’t lose heart.
The Hand in Hand Community brings you closer to being the parent you want to be by finding support in others, and exploring the ways you can nurture self-regulation, compassion and connection in your family. No one is perfect so we also have support for repairing after those whoops moments.
With Hand in Hand Mentors On Call...
Here's what life can look like
When you use Hand in Hand Parenting Tools consistently and in alignment with your family's needs
Easier Mornings
While we can't promise the fantasy experience of waking up to a calm and harmonious household, where mornings flow beautifully through breakfast and getting out the door, we can share tools that will definitely get you closer and help you tailor them to your specific family needs. The Hand in Hand Community is where you come to fill up your parenting toolbox as well as your own capacity to use the tools.
Emotional Wellbeing
Tantrums and meltdowns aren’t mistakes to erase, they’re vital ways children release tension and recover their balance. With support, those outbursts may ease in frequency and intensity over time. Together, we look at what sparks those explosions, while tending to the needs that lie underneath. Step by step, you and your child can find connected ways to express feelings, work through them, and move forward with more ease.
Smoother Transitions
Learn tried and true practices to better understand and even get ahead of transition friction and resistance in situations such as leaving the park or ending playtime and getting out the door. These can happen more seamlessly because you infuse connection and laughter and listening into the transition. Many parents find that daily routines are so much smoother with their deeper understanding of their child's connection needs and they feel more supported in meeting those needs with these tools and the support they find in the Hand in Hand Community.
Deep Connection
By resolving power struggles and tantrums in a supportive and empathetic way, you build a foundation of trust and connection that will grow over the course of this lifelong relationship. Because you customize these tools for your unique family needs, they grow and adapt with you. The support you find in the Hand in Hand Community supports that tailoring process.
What's Inside the Hand in Hand Community?
Expert On-Demand Coaching
Our Community Mentors provide daily coaching with individualized support and action steps for whatever challenge you are facing.
Regular Live Calls
Weekly live calls with Listening Time & coaching and private showings of Hand in Hand workshops and webinars.
Setting Limits Workshop
Join like-minded parents and Hand in Hand Mentors in a group to workshop our most popular online class.
Listening Time Link Up
Whether you want help in the moment or a long-term partner.
Resource Library
Includes past talks, classes, printouts, and reading on 20 subjects ranging from play ideas, help for aggression, sibling rivalry and parent anger.
Monthly Focus
Every month join us for live calls, guidance, and practical support to help you stay connected with your child and navigate parenting with more ease.
25% Off Classes
Whether you want help responding to aggression, sleep, or to get started with Listening Partnerships we have a class. Browse them from your Hand in Hand Community dashboard and enjoy 25% off when you purchase.
20-Minute Welcome Call
Optional one-on-one call with a Hand in Hand Mentor to get familiar with the Community and feel supported from day one.
What Others Say...
Parents Feel Welcomed & Accepted
Imagine how good it would feel if you had
Access to Support
Whenever You Need...
In the Hand in Hand Community, you’ll have round-the-clock access to Mentors, live sessions, on-demand classes, and a caring circle of parents and caregivers, so you don’t have to face the hard moments alone. With this support, everyday parenting can start to feel lighter, more connected, and a lot more possible. Little by little, with steady support, you may notice shifts like:
- Fewer struggles over routines and transitions.
- Bedtimes that end with more calm (and more rest for everyone).
- Siblings' play that flows with less conflict and more laughter.
- A deeper sense of connection with your child and more clarity about what they’re showing you.
- More confidence to hold boundaries that reflect your family’s values.
- Pride in the small, everyday wins that add up to a family life that feels good.
- Moments of tension that once spiraled now resolve more quickly, with less stress for everyone.
- A stronger sense of resilience because you know where to turn when challenges come up, and you don’t feel so alone in facing them.
- You nurture and guide your child, without losing sight of your own needs and wellbeing.
With this in place, parenting can feel
a little lighter and more connected.
Join the Hand in Hand Community today...
...and put joy back into parenting
Pay Monthly
- Free Two Week Trial
Plus these extra trainings:
When you join the Hand in Hand Community, you also get these bonuses to help you get the most out of the Hand in Hand approach.
Bonus 1
Setting Limits & Building Cooperation
Your step-by-step guide to setting loving limits effectively, using Hand in Hand’s 3-part strategy. In video sessions, Patty Wipfler shows you how to understand the right moment to set a limit, words to say, and how to hold the limit when a child resists. Setting Limits this way brings results while building connection.
Usual Price $ 55
Bonus 2
Hand in Hand's Learn 5 Tools
New to Hand in Hand or just need a refresh? Get a complete explanation of each Hand in Hand Listening Tool in this Learn 5 Tools mini-course. You’ll find instructions on how to use each Tool, and how to tweak them for different situations. Return to this course again and again whenever you need inspiration or guidance.
Usual Price $15
Bonus 3
Complete Set: Hand in Hand Listening Guides
Listening to Children helps you crack the code of children’s emotions. The set includes 9 guides:How Children’s Emotions Work, Special Time, Tantrums & Indignation, Crying, Playlistening, Reaching For Your Angry Child, Healing Children’s Fears, Setting Limits with Young Children & Listening Partnerships for Parents.
Usual Price $29
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- Free Two Week Trial
Got Questions?
Great! Here are the answers
We're so happy you found us, and you are committed to this way of parenting. We started the membership because many, many parents told us they loved the idea of Hand in Hand but struggled to implement it consistently. With the Hand in Hand Community you get fast feedback on any question you have about parenting, and specific help from dedicated Instructors.
We don't know another membership where you will get so much personal attention, and we welcome it!
Welcome to Hand in Hand!
The Hand in Hand Community gives you such a great framework for bringing these tools to your family fast and efficiently.
Run through the Hand in Hand Basics self-paced module, to get a really through introduction to the tools.
As you implement each, we're sure you'll have questions, and we'll be right here ready to answer, share action steps and strategies you can use.
With this support in place you'll see big leaps in your child's behaviors and how you respond to them, so that parenting doesn't feel as hard or as lonely, but actually feels hopeful and fun.
We made this Community to offer education, personalised guidance and support, and there are a few ways you can spend your time.
If you have an immediate challenge you want to work on, ask an instructor what resources they recommend, and ask them for their best advice.
If you are feeling isolated, please get involved in the group calls, visit the Listening Partnership space, and join us as we workshop the Setting Limits class.
If your time is very limited, or you are just exhausted right now, we suggest showing up when you have questions or to vent in the vent space. You do not have to be everywhere and do everything. Take what you need!
As you carve more time, take the Setting Limits class that comes free with membership. It guides parents through so many issues and challenges in one place.
If you are keen to jump in with both feet and want to max out your time with us, you could allow a few hours each week. You'll be able to take a class, join us for a live call, drop into the live feed to share or get support, get focused on a monthly challenge, and get Listening Time with another parent.
Your journey is up to you - with zero judgment from us.
And remember, we have instructors online all the time, so just ask us if you could use a little direction.
How about a 2-4-1? That's right! Feel free to nominate one other user to share your account on us. We're passionate about sharing these ideas and offering community as best as we can.
If you want to nominate another user, just contact Kathy Gordon, one of our Community Mentors, after you join and she'll get you set up.
Absolutely! The ideas that form the Hand in Hand approach are trauma-responsive, supportive and shown to break negative generational patterns - and they work for everyone.
Teachers, therapists and grandparents are big fans of Hand in Hand, and very welcome in this community.