Coping with divorce? When today’s guest, instructor Kristen Zuzek Volk, found Hand in Hand, she’d almost written off a loving relationship with her daughter. After a recent divorce, her two kids were screaming, crying and acting out, her daughter sometimes … Continue reading
He reminds me that no one expects me to be perfect except myself. And I lose it over how much pressure I put on myself… and how I’m failing my children…
Leah had returned from her dad’s house chock full of feelings—she seemed sullen and sad and had lost all enthusiasm about the party. I decided to help my daughter get in better emotional shape so that she would be able to enjoy our party.
I’ve been working with Cynthia on learning how to build a solid foundation through working with my daughter rather than trying to control her.
Listening to the feelings loosens their hold on your child.
Boy did that let out the feelings! He cried and kicked and screamed and even punched at his own head on and off for the next 20 minutes. He yelled that he had an awful life because he was an awful person. He told me he was not a good person. He told me that bad things happened to him because he’s not a good person. He even started screaming that it’s all his fault that his father and I divorced. (Three years ago!)
That small gesture of getting down on the same level as him and being with him as well as I could despite that door in between us made a huge difference.