A Guest Post by Michelle Kokel Dear Hand in Hand, Please help. My 4-year-old son has had a turbulent time at pre-school and has become very aggressive. I am seeing this as an issue around separation. We have increased Special … Continue reading
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3 Understandings That Helped Me Respond More Calmly to my Child’s Aggressive Behavior
A Guest Post by Miranda Fairhall When my husband and I chose parenthood through adoption, I knew that I would be mothering a child who carried deep hurt. These days, children are generally removed due to adversity in their birth … Continue reading
Children’s Aggressive Behavior Comes Down to this One Thing
Hitting? Pinching? Kicking? Most children act aggressively but it can be very tough to see and tougher to understand. When a child is aggressive our instinct is often to shut it down – “Don’t hit,” we say, or “I don’t want … Continue reading
Staylistening Surprises: When Things Don’t Go As Planned
If you’ve discovered the simple and seemingly radical tool of Staylistening – of staying and listening through your child’s upset – you may have been amazed by how your child recovers from that tantrum or meltdown and returns to brightness … Continue reading
Why I Let My Child Hit During Her Upsets
“My daughter, who is seven, always wanted to sleep in my bed. She went through a period of crying every night about sleeping alone. I listened to her cry each time, hoping it was doing some good, but I saw … Continue reading
Understanding Why Tantrums Happen and How to Support Them
A Guest Post with Roma Norriss Tantrums are an inevitable element of childhood. No matter what we do, beginning at around age two, big upsets and crying always appear. It can be as late as six before we see them … Continue reading
Five Tools That Radically Transformed A Mom’s Relationship with Her Aggressive Son
He’d start with an exaggerated, intimidating look. Sarah Richards would brace herself for the onslaught of hitting, punching, and threats that usually followed her five-year-old son’s glare. Her usually creative boy had stopped playing Lego or doing any kind of drawing … Continue reading
How Listening to My Angry Son Helped Us Connect
Staylistening with Raluca Dobre I have been trying to figure out respectful and efficient ways of supporting my six year old unload his negative emotions for a few years. It’s been very hard, even more because there is no such struggle … Continue reading
A Mom’s Open Response To Her Child’s Aggression
My older son, who was six, had been constantly on the edge for a few weeks. He let out his feelings by crying on weekends and then go back to school on Monday. His first grade teacher told us that … Continue reading
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