Wanting Mama
Monday, August 16 2010
She has a strong mama “preference” and almost never chooses to be with me rather than with her mother.
Tag: toddlers
Biting, Pushing, Pulling Hair – Helping Children with Aggression
Friday, July 9 2010
Has your child ever lashed out and hurt someone? Has another aggressive child ever bothered him?
Listening Through a Family Change
Saturday, June 12 2010
Given the morning conversation, I kept telling her that both mummy and daddy love her, that she was safe and that we would both continue to look after her.
Special Time Helps with Teethbrushing
Sunday, June 6 2010
Whenever I caught a break from his rigorous brushing, I begged, “no more!” in vain. He would put more rigor into his brushing laughing and really enjoying this role reversal.
The Car Seat Sessions
Tuesday, May 4 2010
Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, my son turned into Houdini and escaped from his car seat. It was now taking an average of two hours just to get a few miles.
Emotional Project – Help for Nail Biting
Friday, April 30 2010
I talked about nail biting, how I feel about it, and how I feel about my sons doing it. It felt to me as if nail biting was one of those habits that was almost impossible to shake off. I felt that my sons were doomed to live with the habit for the rest of their lives.
Using Listening Tools at Home and at School
Friday, April 16 2010
Later that day, when, once again, he did not get the chair he wanted, he STARTED to reach out and hit, but with pause, he stopped, and at the suggestion of another teacher to sit in another chair, he complied!
I’ll Help You Wait
Tuesday, March 23 2010
I have been working on how to wait when someone else has something my son wants. It all started with hoping to teach my son how to share and play with other kids without my son hitting. Someone would have something he wanted or other way around. So, I have learned to stay close to help him during these times and hold the limit.
Laughter Eases the Way to Brushing Teeth
Sunday, March 7 2010
Now, that it was time to brush teeth and go to bed, they were not in the mood.
Emotional Project – Toilet Troubles
Saturday, February 27 2010
The next time I saw him on tippy toes, with a worried look on his face, I moved towards him and put my arms around him. I said “Hey mate, it looks like you need to do a poo. I’m going to help you”. That was all he needed to start crying – he fought hard against me as he cried, “No, No, NO! I don’t want to.”
Helping My Son Sleep in His Bed
Thursday, February 4 2010
So, the night before last seemed the perfect night to put my limit setting to the test. When my youngest woke up and wanted to come to our bed, I said in a loving tone, “No. I’m going to go sleep with Aba (dad), and you are going to stay here in bed with your brother.”
How I Cooled My Son’s “Hot Button” Issues
Tuesday, January 26 2010
I normally listen to his big feelings when he brings an upset to me, using Staylistening in response to his cues. This time, I decided that I wanted to help him with both these issues because they affected our daily life, and because they weren’t getting better on their own.
Crying Brings Peace and Relaxation
Friday, January 22 2010
I was calm and felt an internal peace I have not had in a while. I knew I was there for her and that it was not my responsibility to “make her” feel better, that she just needed to to feel her pain, confusion and anger.
Listening to Angry Feelings
Wednesday, December 30 2009
She immediately got very upset and began crying and screaming at me. I moved closer to her and she began to scream at me to go away.
Siblings Give Each Other Special Time
Tuesday, December 22 2009
After I had my daughter I didn’t know whether I wanted to have a second child. I didn’t really understand the benefits of having a sibling.