Setting Limits: The Hard No

You know about setting warm limits: Moving in calmly when you need to stop a behavior, but what happens when it feels like there is no chance to keep calm? Like, your child is about to stick their finger in … Continue reading

17 Kind Ways To Say No To Your Child

On Setting Limits Juliet looked at her mom, her hands already on the paint pot. “Mama? Can we paint some more. Please?” Her mom, tired and in the middle of signing a school memo, looked at her daughter and sighed. … Continue reading

Take a Time Out from Time Outs

  Your son has been acting out all day. First he grabbed his friend’s toy truck at a playdate and refused to play nicely. He threw it across the room when you asked him to return it. Then when you … Continue reading

I Want Another Cookie and I Will Not Buckle My Car Seat

We were at an impasse for at least 10 minutes. We tried to wait patiently for her to be ready to leave, but she refused to buckle her car seat and physically prevented us from helping her. Finally, after at least 10 minutes, she allowed me to help her. She was tired and angry and the look in her eyes said, “Help me. I’m in here somewhere and I can’t find myself.”

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