Should I Still Be Co-Sleeping With My Tween?
Monday, October 19 2020
“Hi, I’ve been using the Hand in Hand tools for a few years but my husband has never really been on board. I’ve modelled using the Tools – and over the years he used to
Tag: teens
Keeping Closer to Your Teen: Why Parents Need Flexibility
Wednesday, December 21 2016
Planning Special Time with a teen can be a little different than with a younger child. It’s a topsy-turvy road of uncertainty, for sure. Several years ago my son always jumped at the chance to
Teen Emotions: Helping Your Teen To Release
Sunday, December 18 2016
My daughter, 13, and I were getting ready for bed this week when things turned playful. It started because she is a master at picking up any irritation in my voice, even when I’m not
Listening to Teens Can Get Messy
Monday, November 18 2013
We were surrounded by foam peanuts. I don’t know how anyone can be oblivious to foam peanuts on the floor, but she was! She was talking happily to me about this, that, and the other, with a big smile on her face, when I felt this really strong urge to take some of those peanuts and throw them at her. So, I picked up a bunch of them in my hand and, in slow motion, with some soft dramatic noises, I slowly inched my way toward her with the foam peanuts.
Dad’s Listening Leads to Cooperation
Friday, September 3 2010
I’ve been working with Cynthia on learning how to build a solid foundation through working with my daughter rather than trying to control her.
Listen, Limit, Listen
Thursday, July 15 2010
I sat there thinking how Mother’s Day was an hour away, I would be getting up at 7 and driving to South San Francisco with my daughter and right now I am probably the absolute LAST person she wants to be with. Sigh. A Mother’s Day to look forward to.
Pillow Fighting Saves the Day
Wednesday, May 26 2010
I thought, “No, we aren’t going to be able to handle a big upset right now!” so I got her to let him go, and we kept on pillowfighting and wrestling for a long time–10 or 15 minutes.
Setting Limits with a Pre-Teen
Friday, May 7 2010
My wife and I also had to process our feelings: it didn’t feel good to hear how painful it was for us to limit her social life in this way. She felt badly, we felt badly.
Connecting When the Door Is Closed
Friday, March 12 2010
I quickly grabbed a small notebook and pen, scribbled, “Dear Owen, I love you, Love Mommy” on a sheet of paper, and shoved it under the door.
My Daughter and Her “Fat” Tummy
Tuesday, January 12 2010
My 12-year-old daughter was mad and sad about feeling ugly and fat this morning and focusing on her “flabby” tummy.
Advice Doesn’t Work for My Teen
Sunday, December 13 2009
I didn’t really realize what I was doing, but I could feel that Anna was not listening to me. Tension was building up in the car. When we arrived at home the first thing she did was to shout angrily at her little sister without any reason!
A Special Time Love Bomb Teaches Me About My Teen Son
Wednesday, October 21 2009
He was doing his thing, but he was thinking about me, too.
Playful Parenting: The Vigorous Snuggle
Sunday, August 23 2009
When one reasonable request doesn’t get through to our children, it’s time for an entirely new tactic. We propose the vigorous snuggle!
Connecting with Teens through Play
Monday, June 22 2009
My yelping and running gets him laughing and playing hard.