By Chloe Saint Guilhem Does it ever feel like your kids are just waiting for an excuse to start fighting? Family busyness, school stress, and changes in routine can all uproot a child’s sense of security. To get it back … Continue reading
A Guest Post by Miranda Fairhall When my husband and I chose parenthood through adoption, I knew that I would be mothering a child who carried deep hurt. These days, children are generally removed due to adversity in their birth … Continue reading
Hitting? Pinching? Kicking? Most children act aggressively but it can be very tough to see and tougher to understand. When a child is aggressive our instinct is often to shut it down – “Don’t hit,” we say, or “I don’t want … Continue reading
“My daughter, who is seven, always wanted to sleep in my bed. She went through a period of crying every night about sleeping alone. I listened to her cry each time, hoping it was doing some good, but I saw … Continue reading
A Guest Post by Emilie Leeks We all have hurts, stresses and upsets stored in our limbic (emotional) brain, and our bodies know just what to do to release those hard feelings – if we let them! Tears and laughter are two of … Continue reading
A Guest Post with Kathy Gordon Dear Hand in Hand, My child is having serious aggression issues at school. She’s been acting out a lot. Her teachers tell me she throws tantrums and she cries loudly when she gets … Continue reading
What is Hand in Hand Parenting?: Day 8 In the last of our series of Listen Launch Posts, Patty Wipfler talks about how children’s deep down fears can erupt in patterns of aggression and how releasing those fears comes through a … Continue reading
“I hate you!” “You are so mean!” “You don’t love me!” A kick, as you attempt to draw close and maintain some level of order. A scratch, as you reach out to hug. Hitting and a screaming battle as you order … Continue reading
Hand in Hand’s Laura Minnigerode uses a special limit setting tool called a vigorous snuggle with a child that scratches and grabs. The warmth and smiles she uses while saying “no,” diffuses anger and fosters connection. Here’s how to set a limit with affection even when a child has aggression.
Aggression is common in toddlers, but that doesn’t mean it’s inevitable. The Hand in Hand parenting philosophy is based on the fact that all children are naturally, good, loving and co-operative.