The Gift of a Thousand Tantrums
Tuesday, November 9 2010
This morning Brook, my mostly mild-mannered four-year-old, had a huge tantrum. We were just about to get in the car and join our friends on a hike. It all seemed to be going as planned
Tag: Feelings
Special Time Leads to Connection
Tuesday, October 26 2010
I am absolutely amazed at the powerful effects that Special Time has on my relationship with my daughter, and also in helping her address things that are bothering her.
Tantrum Training Class Helps a Family
Wednesday, October 13 2010
First I would like to thank for your support. I am so glad that I could attend the Tantrum Training seminar. I have a 2.5 year old son and a 16 month old daughter. As
Listening Helps my Daughter
Sunday, September 19 2010
She started to cry on and off, and I tried to remember if anything had happened that might have upset her.
Setting Limits after a Playdate
Friday, September 10 2010
It was one of those necessary limits that we parents set every day and I liked the process as it didn’t build up tension in him or in myself, instead, it diffused it. I didn’t resort to threats or bribes, and I didn’t raise my voice. It made us close and playful.
Dad’s Listening Leads to Cooperation
Friday, September 3 2010
I’ve been working with Cynthia on learning how to build a solid foundation through working with my daughter rather than trying to control her.
Wanting Mama
Monday, August 16 2010
She has a strong mama “preference” and almost never chooses to be with me rather than with her mother.
Carpool Playlistening
Sunday, August 1 2010
Parents got together and came up with a carpool arrangement, then invited one of the Hand in Hand trainers for an education night to learn about Parenting by Connection tools. Some families started doing Special Time and Staylistening at home.
Listen, Limit, Listen
Thursday, July 15 2010
I sat there thinking how Mother’s Day was an hour away, I would be getting up at 7 and driving to South San Francisco with my daughter and right now I am probably the absolute LAST person she wants to be with. Sigh. A Mother’s Day to look forward to.
Biting, Pushing, Pulling Hair – Helping Children with Aggression
Friday, July 9 2010
Has your child ever lashed out and hurt someone? Has another aggressive child ever bothered him?
Happy Hiking
Monday, July 5 2010
A part of me just wanted to push through and get it over with, but then I thought maybe a little impromptu special time might shift the mood.
Working with Aggressive Behavior
Tuesday, June 29 2010
A few days later I noticed there had been no aggressive behavior since the day of the big cry.
Listening Partnerships
Tuesday, June 22 2010
I have found it is a great benefit to have a phone listening time right after the children have gone to sleep. This is the worst time of my “bad days” when I am exhausted, tight and furious.
Listening Through a Family Change
Saturday, June 12 2010
Given the morning conversation, I kept telling her that both mummy and daddy love her, that she was safe and that we would both continue to look after her.
My Child’s Crying Helped With A Major Accident
Tuesday, June 1 2010
All in all, it was 8 hours of really hard crying, perspiration, and tears. I could smell his body odor—he worked up a heavy sweat.